First night out without H. Went CW Dancing. Had good time but lost it on way home. Miss him sooo much. Can't believe this is happening to me after 27 years. Feel so lost and devastated. Almost went to his apt tonight, would have been willing to do anything. Thank God I didn't. Wanted to go back to plan A but don't think I can. He is suppose to come for dinner tomorrow night. I plan not to be here, why? I feel I can not let him use me like this, why? Why can I not let myself Plan A? Help! I am so confused and so miserable. Both close friends tell me to stay away, not to let him have his cake and eat it too. I asked him to leave two and one half weeks ago. Would not give up other woman. After three phone calls from him I asked him to stop calling. He did leave several "takin care of business" messages, but has not once told me he misses me or wants to see me. that is why I can not go back to Plan A. Am I too stuborn for my own good? I too was a good wife. He says I'm prettier than 90% of others for my age, respects me, admires me, loves me, but not "In Love With Me". HOW DO I GO ON. HOW DO I HANDLE THE PAIN? I sm so lost. He and the kids have been my life for 27 years. I don't want to be without him. What to do?

Hurtin in Tx,<P>I have to get ready for church now... but I understand your pain... and will be praying for you today..<P>I'll get back later today and give you my understanding of Plan B...<P>Prayers for someon in pain... <P>Jim<BR>---------------------------------<BR>Where two or more are gathered...

Hurtin<P>I'm so sorry. I know how hard this is.<P>Plan A is to deposit love units. To show him that you are wonderful. And it's hard.<P>But if you can't, and only you know inside what you can handle and what you can't, if you can't do it and trying to see him and be nice to him makes you not love him so much, then it's time for Plan B. <P>Plan B severs ALL contact. It's designed to protect you and your feelings for him. It's harder than A from what I understand - I haven't been ready to try it yet. But no contact is NO CONTACT!!<P>Make sure you're ready to say no, to ignore his pleas and attempts to talk with you. Make very sure that you can do it.<P>Only you can decide when you are ready. And when it's time, it's time. Harley recommends Plan A for 6 months, but it's still an individual decision. <P>I know your hurt. Try to take it day by day, minute by minute and do the things you need to do to ease your pain.<P>We're here for you.<P>{{{{{{{{{{{{Hurtin}}}}}}}}}}}}<P>Lori

Thank you Jim and Lori. I really appreciate you being there for me and All of Us. I thank God I found this web site. It's good to have friends and family here for me, but until someone has been through or is in what we are now, no one can understand what it's like. It really helps to know I am not alone in this.<P>God Bless You All