<small>[ October 12, 2003, 11:34 AM: Message edited by: *LULU* ]</small>

Yes, absolutely, I think CoffeeDude makes a wonderful point about we-ness. Print it.

Also I think he pretty much covers the bases on what to tell the husband. I would also ask if there is any way you can be of help or support.

Be prepared for him to be angry or to not believe you, did you say you printed copies of the emails or that you have them? If so, offer to send them on if he wants them.

The real key is for him to know that you are going to do everything you can to end the A and to save your marriage. He may already know and may have been fed a line about you knowing and not caring.

Lulu.... I just want to say that if my clients were as proactive and courageous as you my job would be a whole lot easier. I am amazed and impressed with your determination to do some really scary stuff. Many blessings to you my dear..... you are an incredibly strong woman.

C

<small>[ October 12, 2003, 11:35 AM: Message edited by: *LULU* ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Lulu:

"I also need help crafting the email to the OW. What do I say to her? "</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">How about the following?:

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I KNOW you and MY HUSBAND are having an A, I have ALL the evidence to prove it. I can understand how you fell in love with MY HUSBAND (I to am in love with him) BUT your love is NO justification for having an affair with MY HUSBAND. It is WRONG and YOU A MARRIED WOMAN, of all people, SHOULD KNOW IT, and for this reason I respectfully request that you IMMEDIATELY end your relationship with MY HUSBAND FOREVER. Sincerely Lulu. P.S. I'm forwarding ALL information about your affair with MY HUSBAND, to YOUR HUSBAND</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Notice the emphasis on 'MY HUSBAND'? It is needed to prove the point that SHE is THE INVADER in your marriage.

<small>[ July 29, 2003, 05:47 PM: Message edited by: T00MuchCoffeeMan ]</small>

<small>[ October 12, 2003, 11:35 AM: Message edited by: *LULU* ]</small>

I think she needs to add uhhmmmmm..... that she is doing all she can to make her marriage a wonderful place for her husband and that she will do whatever it takes to save her marriage.

And that not only the R end, but that there be no contact of any sort in the future. We don't want to go to the "we're just friends so it's ok to stay in touch," place.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by cerri:
I think she needs to add uhhmmmmm..... that she is doing all she can to make her marriage a wonderful place for her husband and that she will do whatever it takes to save her marriage.

And that not only the R end, but that there be no contact of any sort in the future. We don't want to go to the "we're just friends so it's ok to stay in touch," place.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I mean you need to add it.... I was responding to the amazing CaffeinatedMan at the same time you were posting.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

You are right cerri, Lulu has to include in her e-mail that she is trying to save her marriage. I thought I did cover the possibility of any future contact between her and Lulu's WH with the word FOREVER.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by T00MuchCoffeeMan:
<strong>You are right cerri, Lulu has to include in her e-mail that she is trying to save her marriage. I thought I did cover the possibility of any future contact between her and Lulu's WH with the word FOREVER.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yeah.... I like to spell out what that means.... just cuz the addiction thing is there and it's always looking for away around it.

Ending the relationship forever makes sense to all of us.... but you and I know what WS's and affair partners try to get away with when they are under the influence.

Cerri the 'amazing' caffeinatedman is going to the gym to flush out the excess caffeine from his system otherwise he's going to find himself repeating last weeks disastrous sleepless night. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Lulu be strong and confident for you've got Cerri, Star*fish, yours truly, as well as the rest of the MB gang behind you 100%.

Later ladies.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by T00MuchCoffeeMan:
Cerri the 'amazing' caffeinatedman is going to the gym to flush out the excess caffeine from his system otherwise he's going to find himself repeating last weeks disastrous sleepless night. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Lulu be strong and confident for you've got Cerri, Star*fish, yours truly, as well as the rest of the MB gang behind you 100%.

Later ladies.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Have fun..... stay away from the evil drink for the rest of the night!! I'll be working on some little site updates for a while, so I'll be here a little longer. Darn.... those things take time!

C

<small>[ July 30, 2003, 11:48 AM: Message edited by: *LULU* ]</small>

It's good, I like it. Be sure that you have time to talk to your H before she has a chance to read it and get to him.

<small>[ July 30, 2003, 11:49 AM: Message edited by: *LULU* ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Lulu:
<strong>i have one more technical question about contacting OW's H.

Ive called their home twice, and no one is answering the phone. Should I leave a message for the husband? or should i just keep trying until I get through?

I'm not sure what kinds of things I should put in mass email tomorrow to everyone. I'm trying to imagine what I would feel like if a friend or family member sent me an email about their cheating spouse...not sure, hmmm. how that would go down, KWIM?</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">No, don't leave a message, but do keep trying. Are you blocking your number when you call? *67 to do so.... some places won't let blocked nimbers through, but it's worth a try.

Let's work on the other email tomorrow. If I dont' feed the rabble soon they are likely to rise up and take over!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> LOL

<small>[ October 12, 2003, 11:36 AM: Message edited by: *LULU* ]</small>

It's great lulu....short, clear, deadly. I like it.

I guess it wouldn't be nice to add...."welcome to my world" *bad star* Actually that's mild compared to some of the dastardly phrases I thought of but can't repeat in mixed company...being a southern lady and all *sigh*.

Let us know.

<small>[ October 12, 2003, 11:36 AM: Message edited by: *LULU* ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Here's the weird thing...WH is supposed to be at the gym now. It's 4:30 here and he's supposed to pick me up in 45 minutes.

He's still online at work.

I wonder if he's savvy yet...ugh, all this intrigue.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">If he was checking his email and noticed some had been forwarded, maybe (or maybe not) he is writing more emails to her to discuss you knowing, and what he should do and say. Are you still monitoring the email for new ones since he has been online?

Does he know you visit this site and what your screen name and password are?

<small>[ October 12, 2003, 11:37 AM: Message edited by: *LULU* ]</small>