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Hi everyone,<P>I know that a lot of us are hurting during this "joyous season" and it is sometimes extremely hard to think of the positives in our life right now... but it might be a nice idea if everyone tries to think of one good think that has developed due to the events of our life in the present:<P>Here I go:<P>when I left my husband after learning of his affair I moved in with my father for a couple of weeks. My father (who was also a betrayer) worked harder than he ever has in his life at being a good father to me and a great grand-father to my child. Without this opportunity to re-create a better relationship with him, He might have never had the opportunity to get close to my son or had the chance to be a better father to me. Something good that came from a very bad time.
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One positive thing, I can think of several.<P>The biggest is my faith, next to that I have been given a grand opportunity to feel. <P>I know it's hard to imagine seeing all this pain as a positive. Let me explain; I have always been one to cover or hide my feelings. This was one of the things I contributed to my wifes affair. I have made a concious deaision to feel ALL of my emotions. I now no what love truly feels like. I also know what real emotional pain feels like. And I have experienced this without the use of any mind or mood altering substance.<P>This whole thing has brought me closer to God.<P>Bill<P><BR>"commit to the Lord what ever you do, and your plans will succeed" Proverbs16:3<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>
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Dear William,<P>To feel, even if it is in pain, is to truely live. Have you ever figured out why is was so hard to "feel emotions" before?<P>
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Yes I have figured it out.<P>In a word <B>FEAR</B>.<P>Fear of being vulnerable, and getting hurt.<P>I have never felt more alive in my life!<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>
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When I almost left my H, because of his affair....I thought that my kids & I had no place to go to. I was afraid to call my parents. I thought that they would see me as a failure (even though I wasn't the one who cheated) and scorn me.<P>When I finally got the courage to call them, so that we could move to my parent's home...my parents were so remarkably supportive and compassionate. My Mother went to the church to pray for us. I realized that regardless, my parents would always be there to help me.<P>Her prayers must have worked because the same day that she prayed for us, was the day that my H came back.
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Thanks for the opportunity,<P>The most positive thing in the world to me is that I will be spending this Holiday Season with the one I have for the past 11 years!<P>We also spent it together last year but, it was a little rocky, which I guess makes this one even better.<P>Jesus is the reason for the season.
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SHHHHH- <BR>This is not official but...<P> I THINK THAT I MIGHT BE IN LABOR. I really want to be because they already know that I must have a C-section. This would be the last day that I could have a c-section and still be home for Christmas Eve to be with my family. Well, either Braxon Hicks are going crazy tonight or this could be the beginning of the real thing....I hope, I hope, I hope!!!<P>------------------<BR>
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