Earlier this year, in January, my wife confessed to me that she had had a seriuos emotional affair with her boss. This confession was on the heels of a discussion concerning my suspicion of her having a physical affair with this man who was coming to my home during the day while I was at work (See my posting under "Stonewalled"). This emotional affair preceded her involvement with this other man, who worked closely with her boss, but was not an employee. She told me that this emotional affair drove her to tears and required serious work in order for her to overcome it. She confided in one of girlfriends who assited her in this effort. What amazes me is that she remembered the emotional affair in detail, but remembers nothing about this OM, that I strongly suspect she was physically intimate with. Both affairs took place around the same timeframe, 7 to 9 tears ago. She told me that one day she was on the phone, talking to her girlfriend, crying so much about this emotional affair, and her boss came into the room. He tried to console her, seeing her crying, and she felt that at that moment he realized what she was crying about. But he never addressed the issue. I thank God that he did not, and that he did not take advantage of the situation at hand! He's a friend of mine, a strong Christian man. But I wonder what would have happened if he had not been who he was? This OM in the picture was not as morally upright, and had a history of extra-marital affairs. His wife caught him in the very act, in his office, which is just two minutes from my house. There is a remote possibility that the woman he was caught with was my wife. The OM and his wife left the church (we all attended the same church), and he left the state. The OM's wife recognized the woman she caught him (her husband), and identified her by her title and position, "The secretary". My wife fits that desciption of title. The office this OM worked at had no secretaries on staff at all! I have gone to the office since, and spoke with a person who was working there during this time.
