i don't know if this goes here or not...

Female
I'm 26 and my husband is 28
Betrayed
3 years married
1 years have known spouse before marriage
1 months since "discovery"/Pre-discovery
2 months total length of the affair
Both EA&PA
2 of Affairs (approximate)
Currently in: Recovery
how # months--2 weeks
Living together OP is: married/divorced(or about to)/separated/single
OP is: Other--someone he met while being stationed overseas.
Has divorce been: discussed/requested(by him--but that was before we separated.)
>Following principles of: None yet
## months on the Marriage Builders forums--just started today

2 children of the marriage (ages 2 & 5)
Who has physical custody? we both do.
Are there Other Children(OCs) involved (pregancy wrt to wayward)? No
In counseling? with my dh's Unit Chaplain
On medication/anti-depressants? No
Mid-Life Crisis involved? No
Alcoholism involved? No
Has there been STD as a result of affair? No
Abuse? No
Suicide attempted? No
Lesbian/Gay issues? No

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marzipan,

Welcome to MB. There is so much useful information here, on the website and on this board. I just thought I'd drop a word of encouragement from another wife of a straying husband in the armed services. Mine had several other someones while overseas. But MB will give you some great tools and support to get thru these tough times. It's been a huge help to me.

Dobie

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Marzipan,

You probably won't get much response to your post, as you didn't ask any questions. But us military wives have to stick together, so I thought I'd respond again. If you haven't read "Surviving an Affair" yet, please go get it immediately. It was a great help to me. There are a number of other great books out there as well. We also have a Ladies board at http://www.san-andreas.com/mbladies/ that you might want to visit. We keep our marital discussions here on this board, but the Ladies board has a chat room and it's also a place to post any types of questions that you may not feel comfortable putting here.

Dobie