I am 34 years old, have been married for 15 years to someone who was severely abused as a child for many years, on every level of abuse. For many years, I tried to excuse how he treated me and neglected me, when one day, I just couldn't live "empty" anymore. I thought I had found a wonderful guy, we were both in the same boat, both married, but at the end of it, ready to file for divorce, and we found each other friends at first, but then such a comfort. Surprisingly, with the knowledge of the affair, my spouse has opened his eyes and has seen what he's had all this years and taken for granted. He has forgiven, and says he loves me more know because he came so close to losing me, my heart is breaking at what I've done, why he couldn't have seen this and changed his behavior before this affair happened. These past days with him have been the most wonderful in my life. He has become what I've always dreamed of, and I feel so fortunate to be blessed with a second chance, a new beginning. We have 2 children, and over 19 years of memories together, and I hope that someday I can get to where I feel worthy of this chance, and appreciate how close we came to throwing it all away. If anyone has any advice or a similar situation on how to work through to feel better about yourself after this, I'd appreciate. I am so sad for the act of the affair, but so grateful he woke up to see what he had before a divorce did.
Thank you for any response.
