H didn’t pay all of CS and I just felt like I needed to be able to handle my own business. I tried to have my mom mediate. She called him, but in the end it was not a priority for her. I am so impatient I called him and he is (like I knew he would be) upset that the cs has started to automatically be deducted from his paycheck…Something about having your money gone, before you even get a chance to see it. He told me he wasn’t going to give me the money because he had to find a place to live and if he gave me the money he would be homeless. He talked badly to me, said I never cared about him. It was all happening so quickly I can hardly remember half of it. He went over how much money I was making and how much he was giving me adding it up and saying what are you doing with the money. DUH…. I politely told him to walk a mile in my shoes come take my place and I will see to it that he has as much money as I have and see how easy it is for him. I told him about how my car needs brakes and it’s not fair to have to drive children around in that car. He said he didn’t have a car, he may have to sleep in his car at least I have a house to go to. I told him he had a home to. I said it doesn’t have to be this way. I said we can work out an agreement that makes things better for all of us (I really wanted to say come home) He said I haven’t cared about him in all this time… and I said ok why don’t you just try me, see how much I don’t care about you. Than he said something like No you want me to just give in and do what you want me to do, I’m not giving in. He told me he wasn’t giving me the money and said if I come to his job he was going to call police and he hung up on me. Than he called me back about 20 minutes later and said I’ll give you all except $50. I said that’s fair. And he said he couldn’t give me the rest and that he had gotten a room but because of the money he’s giving me he won’t be able to get it until he gets paid next time. I told him he didn’t have to be homeless, he said I’m not staying there. I said I know I understand that. And I think he was so surprised by my understanding comment that he said do you know what I’m talking about. I said yes, your not staying at my house. He said that’s right. Than told me to be at his job I normally get there at 5:20 because we both get off at 5 but he said he doesn’t want me to get there at 5:20. He wants me to be there at 5 and I was planning on leaving early today anyway. I’ve screwed up plan B.

I wanna say that me and the boys will stay at my mothers house for a couple of weeks while he stays in the fam home.

Heya, MYB. You've got my sympathies for a rough and yucky day. AND you know what to do! You fall off the wagon, you climb back on again. It's not the end of the world, nor even the end of the day.

Stay strong, and go read all the Plan B stuff on GQII, if you haven't already. Stay strong, stay dark, stay cool. You're doing great. His problems are HIS, not yours. Don't fix 'em for him.