I posted last month, it's been 4 weeks since I found out. My wife tells me she still loves her boyfriend, (But has no contact) tells me she loves me... but is not in love with me. She says she hasn't been for 8 years since her first 6 mos affair with her boss started. The last one that she just ended after 8 mos she tells me was deep and that it will take along time to forget. Her therapist agrees.

Now my wife tells me that she'll give me another chance? Wait I thought I would be giving her another chance. When did I turn out to be the bad guy in this??? So confused. I love my wife deeply and cry all the time. I do want her back and I am seeing a Psychiatrist next Friday to help me with my continual numb pain.

I’m walking on egg shells all of the time not to upset her, yet I’m the one crying not her!

I want to see if I get this right. Are you saying that she has had a contant string of affairs with other men and her boss and she is going now to allow you to give you another chance? She puts your health at risk for STD's and has a pattern of affairs and she is going to give you a chance?
It is good that you are going to see a therapist to understand why you feel you are entitled to this abuse. The sound of your letter indicates that your wife is a classic cakewoman who enjoys having sexual affairs but enjoys the benefits of still being married. Ask yourself why do you feel this is what you deserve? Ask yourself if you then what you know now would you still want to get married to her? I think you need to take a long hard look at yourself and who you really married and what you expect out of a marriage and a relationship. The sound of your letter indicates that your wife believes that she can do anything to you and you will always be a safety net for her. No consequences to her actions equals no motivation to change. I wish you luck.

Nothing confusing about your situation. Your wife is nuts. If you stay with her it will be a marriage of convenience which will not bring happiness to you. Get rid of her and move on.