I am 32 and has been with my husband for 6 yrs married 1 He has cheated on me several times. I know because of calls but he just said they were friends. I didn't believe him because I have male friends to but I don't hide them from him. Well last week I checked his voice mail there was a lady that asked him to call her back and said she loved him. He said they were just friends and he didn't know why she said she loved him. I asked him how they met. he said her brother and him are friends and she just started getting on the phone and talking to him. I didn't believe him so I called the number back she is now in jail for five years. I spoke to her sister inlaw. She said her husband didn't know my husband. My husband is a truck driver. The lady told me that my husbands girl friend was in a half way house and ran away from there and went to a truck stop and thats when my husban met her. she stayed in the truck with him for 3-4 weeks. My husband of course says its all lies but why would they lie? They don't even know me. Some one please give me your opinion on this.

You might want to calmly and respectfully tell your H that as much as you want to beleive him over a strange woman you don't know, that his past history of infidelities causes you to have your doubts about his version of things and it would greatly help you if he could please be totally honest with you.

First of all....let me tell you this. You are not crazy. You are not a jealous *itch or a suspicious crazy person. Your husband is lying and you have discovered it. Of course he will deny it. But assume it is true....and act on that. Hopefully, you will at some point soon, where you will be able to get an honest answer from your husband, in the meantime....begin to examine why your marriage is vulnerable to affairs. The most obvious reason is his job of course. Truck drivers are pretty notorious for affairs. It's not because they are awful people....they just spend so much time away from home. It's a special challenge for marriages. Do you have children?

I TOLD HIM THAT I KNOW HE HAS BEEN CHEATING AND NO MATTER HOW MUCH HE DENIES IT HE IS STILL BUSTED. BUT OF COARSE HE STILL WON'T ADMIT IT. I STARTED CHECKING INTO A DIVORCE, BUT MY PASTOR ASKED ME TO WAITE AND SEE IF I STILL WANT IT AFTER I'VE GOTTEN OVER THE SHOCK. I LOVE HIM BUT I DON'T WANT TO DIE OF AIDS AND I DON'T WANT MY HUSBAND TO CHEAT ON ME. A BIG PROBLEM THAT WE HAVE IS MY SIZE, SO I STARTED GOING TO THE GYM.

I agree with your pastor that you should wait until you've gotten control of your emotions for decisions based on them often come back later on to bite us on the behind.

As far as your weight problem is concerned, I found that the best way to stick to an exercise/diet plan is to do it for the right reasons which are your health first, your self respect (you respect your body, you respect yourself), and for an increased in your self confidence which your children can look up to. Do it for those reasons, and your attraction level will increase dramatically.