I posted earlier .I am new to posting so bare with me..well hubby will not fill out questioanire. He will go to counseling, but is very very reluctant. He says he hates me,says there is no way i can give him love points cause he dislikes everything about me now. Everything seemed normal before the OW (who he says was not a relationship just that he was trying to help her and they talked about there marriages.)He says he hates everything is unhappy with everything and his life is not what he planned.I thought life was fine.Granted he was a taker he spent all the money and was not as affectionate as i liked but i could handle it.I never controlled him.He says i never kept the house clean enough.I thought i did except when i was pg i am not allowed to. Also i am injured from my epidural (nerve damage) so i am in lots of pain but we don't have trash piled up, no bugs.Everyone i know say it is fine and he is crazy.I agree i am not a good cook and i hate to cook but there was always food in the house and for the last 2 1/2 months i have been faithfully cooking dinner even making new meals from the cookbook, but he still hates me. i am so tired i am falling apart even in front of our 4 small children. The baby is feeling the stress .

Will counseling work if he dosent want it to?

How do i act around him.He is so cold. i am afraid to talk that i will make him madder. I hold up in the bedroom at night(he is sleeping on the couch.

I love him so much .I wish i hated him.At times in the last few days i have been growing into emotional divorce.
Especially when he made the comment that when i got pregnant with our baby(she was a suprise since our others are fertility babies)and we were not planning it i should have stopped taking the progestrone shots and let nature take its course.The only way i can maintain a pg is to take these shots or i misscarry.How could he be so cold about our beautiful baby girl.

I have always been faithful i stayed a virgin for marriage even though i dated a ton before we met.I gave him everything. I gave up lots to make him happy.

How do i save this marriage if he hates me and will not even work thru the questionaires?

Any thoughts would really help thank you all . I am already on xanax since my mom died a few months ago tragically 28 days before i gave birth. I have had our other daughter in the hospital(he was calling the ow when i needed him so much at the hospital)i feel like i am at my point to much saddnes in less then 6 months.

Thank you all again and my prayers are all with you dealing with betrayl.

Did you all feel this way?

When i read posts most of you say that the H told you and you were still able to talk not like mine saying he hates me.The only time he said he was sorry and would make it work was the day i caught him.(during the time with the OW he said he was not inlove with me and was verbally abusive it happened out of the blue right after i had the baby )

Within a week he went from i love you to he loved me like a sister and then the next day he hates me

Do you think he means it he sure acts like it.Or is cause of the OW? <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

Thanks to you all