After I posted me first message this afternoon the "OW" came to my door and asked to talk to me. (She is my next door neighbor). I have spoken to her before at that time apologized and said that she was going to stay away from husband. She came by today to once again reassure me. She said that the other day when my husband and I were going out and she was sitting on her stoop that she felt so uncomfortable for me that she had the need to come by and apologize once again. She says that she never meant to hurt anyone she just wasn't thinking when the affair started. She also explained that her husband had cheated on her so she knows what I am going through and thus was willing to tell me anything that I wanted to know about the affair and stay as far away from my husband as possible. To be honest I really appreciate the fact that she even cares, however I wish that she had cared before my husband fell in love with her. You see according to her she is still in love with her husband and not mine. My husband is the one who is inlove with her and that is what I can't deal with. It is so hard with her being so close and we can't just move, we own our home. My children don't know that it is the girl next door that my husband had an affair with althought they do know that he had an affair though. My children are 15,12,7 and 2 months. The girl as I stated in my last post is 20, I am in my 30's so you can imagine that my eldest daughter was very curious about why I would even be speaking with this woman. I really don't want my children to know who she is. I don't think is fair for me to be as uncomfortable as I am much less them feeling that way. I don't know what I am going to do, I just found about the affair a couple of weeks ago and the wounds are very fresh. I did read about plan A and B and really want my marriage, but don't see how things can work when he is love with this woman and she is right next door. <P><P>------------------<BR>
