Welcome to the
Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum
This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement. Also, information about the Marriage Builders principles can be found in the books available for sale in the Marriage Builders® Bookstore.
If you would like to join our guidance forum, please read the Announcement Forum for instructions, rules, & guidelines.
The members of this community are peers and not professionals. Professional coaching is available by clicking on the link titled Coaching Center at the top of this page.
We trust that you will find the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum to be a helpful resource for you. We look forward to your participation.
Once you have reviewed all the FAQ, tech support and announcement information, if you still have problems that are not addressed, please e-mail the administrators at
mbrestored@gmail.com
|
|
|
|
Joined: Sep 2003
Posts: 73
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Sep 2003
Posts: 73 |
My WH has been NC for a while. Ignoring contacts from OW but she is persistent. When, if at all should I (BS) contact OW to tell her to leave it alone? She calls his cell everynight at 11pm like clockwork. Everytime I answer and she hangs up/ WH says he has not initiated or responded to contact from OW. He may be truthful or maybe not (trust questioned). However, assuming that he is now telling truth and SHE is the one being persisitent. What shouls I do now?
PLEASE HELP
BH
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jun 2001
Posts: 3,912
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jun 2001
Posts: 3,912 |
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Mar 2002
Posts: 5,651
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Mar 2002
Posts: 5,651 |
Have her served with a restraining order to not contact either you or your H. With this approach, you will find out real quickly whether or not your H is being truthful, btw.
OR - and I like this one - you could answer it tonight moaning like you are in the middle of an orgasm. "Yes yes yes - hello? OH BABY YES! Can I help you?"
<small>[ September 12, 2003, 04:40 PM: Message edited by: *Takola* ]</small>
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Mar 2001
Posts: 3,646
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Mar 2001
Posts: 3,646 |
Definitely. And email accounts. Change or block her.
Did your H ever send her a n/c letter? I think that would be a good thing to do. How long has it been since the A ended?
Here's the guidelines for the letter that he should write, you should approve and you should put in the envelope and mail together.
C
No contact letter to the affair partner:
• Out of respect and love for spouse and children s/he realizes that s/he must never see or speak to lover again.
• the relationship with lover was cruel and thoughtless and you did not deserve to be treated that way
• S/He is determined to be the spouse you deserve and have been missing
• S/He will not contact lover again and asks that s/he respect this wish to end the relationship entirely
• You have been told all the details of the affair and will be told immediately if contact is attempted in the future.
~~~~~~~
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Sep 2003
Posts: 73
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Sep 2003
Posts: 73 |
Thanks for the replies. Yes an NC letter was issued. But not only WAS he addicted...but now it apparent so is she. She just won't let go. I will have all numbers changed. And all email accounts too. However....if all else fails do I contect her and tell her to back off?
Thanks
BH
|
|
|
|
0 members (),
537
guests, and
364
robots. |
|
Key:
Admin,
Global Mod,
Mod
|
|
|
Forums67
Topics133,625
Posts2,323,528
Members72,054
| |
Most Online8,273
Aug 17th, 2025
|
|
|
|
|
|
