Hi Cerri,

Quick question,

We have a FWS on recovery forum we've been talking to for a while. Tonight she confessed to PA with H's best friend (I know, hate to see his enemies).

He asked her to check about MC tomorrow and I suggested she talk to several and find one who is supportive of the MB framework. We've pointed her toward the MB books as well as Torn Asunder and she's reading like mad, desperate to make things better and looks like she has an H who didn't flip out yet - already discussing forgiving her.

So, question - she has a lot of friends here, is doing everything 'right' and needs a good MC who will support the framework she's already in.

A. Where to look?

B. After 10 pages of her original thread with people telling her no contact and disclose the affair, OK, she listened, she was terrified but by-golly she found it in her and did it. Any suggestions on how best to support her now?

bumpity-bump

Why not Steve, Jenn or me?

You can send her over here and I'd be happy to chat with her on the boards. You can send her to my email. Or you can suggest she call any of us for help.

If you go to my site, there is a list of things to ask a counselor or coach before hiring them. I suggest people print that out and take it along or call first. Also, here are some lengthy but excellent articles on what to watch out for in therapy.

Bad couples therapy - Dr. Bill Doherty

Hazardous therapy - same author

C

Thanks Cerri, will do.

We are pretty proud of her.