Hey There,

I am new here, from holland. I came here because I have a problem. My boyfriend had behind my back cybersex for one month. He even bought underwear from a girl. She was a (girl)friend of him and had already used it. He paid for it and he had cybersex with an other girlfriend, he sent horny sms too. I had to find it out by myself and was very shocked. I told him I knew everything and he said he was very sorry.. that he won't do it again. I really don't know if I can still trust him but I really love him. Is it possible to have a relasionship without trusting eachother on that point?

There's an other point. Because I didn't know wether I could trust him or not I acted like an other girl and started to seduce him. It worked, he had again cybersex with her (me). I was very angry and told him it was over but he said he knew from the beginning it was me. Well, I really don't know how he could know that. But again I forgave him..

I found horny smsjes in his mobile phone from him to the same girl with the underwere and she also replayed them. The date was right and it was his new phone. He said the were from the same time as he bought the underwere.. But at the time he hadn't had his new phone. He said he transmitted into the other without realizing it.

Is that true??
Please can you help me because it's a big problem!! What should I do?

Thank you very much for reading it.

Welcome to the forum Mary! Have you read the articles on the home site? Yes, there is a way to trust him again....but he must be committed to protecting you and you must give him to time to show you he can be trustworthy. Do you think that is possible?

Keep posting, we'll help if we can.