i am a 34 y/o male and i have been married twice. my first marriage ended because wife was unfaithful. i have been with 2nd wife for 12 years(married to her for 8years).second marriage is falling apart. my wife is not talking, touching, are showing me any interest at all. she would most likley tell me to leave her if she could make it on her own.(moneywise)
now for the past 3 or 4 weeks my ex wife is calling me at home at work and is hounding me to death to meet her and talk. well long storie short i met her and talked for 3 hours bout her and i. she says after 12 years of seaching for love she now relizes she had what she is looking for with me. she wants us to try again. well in a monent of weekness we had sex.
i have no kids with my current wife but i have two with my ex wife. one lives with me and one lives with my ex.i love both my boys and always wanted the leave it to beaver type marriage.
i am really confused by this whole thing now. i am thinking this might work. any help or advice would be great

Get to an MC real quick. You have obligations both ways but you also have issues both ways.

You are certainly in a delimea. Can you call Steve, Jennifer or Cerri for some phone counseling?

You are asking a very difficult question.

Here's one from me: Why is your current W sooo distant? Are you giving her a reason to leave?

L.

Confess to your W(wife) what you did because she has a right to know and decide whether or not she wants to remain married to you. Sadly sometimes an affair is THE wake up to call to many BS(betrayed spouses) that the marriage is in far worse shape than suspected.

As far as your ex-W is concerned, tell her you want no further contact with her unless it is child related. I suspect that your ex-W MAY be in a relationship drought at the moment and she is scared of being without a man in her life. Don't fall for wishful thinking about your ex-W's words just because your present W is not acting very loving towards you.