I HAVE BEEN MARRIED OVER 20 YEARS AND HAD THREE KIDS, THEY ARE AT THEIR TEEN NOW, MY HUSBAND HAS BEEN LIVING IN OUR MOTHER COUNTY WHEN I TOOK OUR 3 KIDS TO THE U.S. 14 YEARS AGO. HE HAS BEEN VISITING US 3 TO 4 TIMES EACH YEAR , STAYS ABOUT 10DAYS EACH TIME

TO ME, SEX IS AN IMPORTANT PART OF MARRAGE AND I HAD EXCELLENT SEX LIFE UNTIL RECENTLY, MY HUSBAND HAD HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE AND HIGH COLESTRO PROBLEM AND THE MEDICATION HE TOOK FOR YEARS SEEM TO TAKING SOME SIDE AFFECT,

FEW YEARS BACK HE CASULLY MENTIONED THAT HE THINKS THE MEDICATION CAUSING HIM LOSING INTEREST IN BED TIME SEX

THIS TRIP, HE CASULLY MENTION THAT HE COULD NOT EVEN GET IT UP

HE WAS HERE LAST WEEK, AND LEFT LAST NIGHT BACK TO OUR MOTHER COUNTRY, HE DID NOT EVEN HUGE ME OR ANYTHING...

ANY ADVISE, (MAYBE I AM SELFISH, BUT I DON'T THINK I CAN SURVIVE LIKE THIS)

LEECHENMINGYU welcome to MB.

I would like to suggest that you turn the capital letters button of because it generally conveys shouting.

First I would like to ask you why has your husband been living in another country for most of your married life?

Second, you are not being selfish in wanting sex because you love your husband and you want to express that love physically to him. But I would suggest that you ask him what kind of medicines he's taking because many high blood pressure medicines do tend to cause ED(erectile dysfunction) and it just might be possible that his doctor could switch him over to other medicines that do not affect his erections and libido.

Good communication, without blaming, is essential to resolve your problem, so please talk to him, and tell him that you love him and you are very concerned for his overall health.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by T00MuchCoffeeMan:
<strong>LEECHENMINGYU welcome to MB.

I would like to suggest that you turn the capital letters button of because it generally conveys shouting.

First I would like to ask you why has your husband been living in another country for most of your married life?

Second, you are not being selfish in wanting sex because you love your husband and you want to express that love physically to him. But I would suggest that you ask him what kind of medicines he's taking because many high blood pressure medicines do tend to cause ED(erectile dysfunction) and it just might be possible that his doctor could switch him over to other medicines that do not affect his erections and libido.

Good communication, without blaming, is essential to resolve your problem, so please talk to him, and tell him that you love him and you are very concerned for his overall health.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">

Thanks for your kind thoughts, here goes
WHY ME AND HUSBAND HAS BEEN SEPARATED IN TWO DIFFERENT COUNTRY?
* WE THOUGHT (WHEN THE KIDS WERE BABIES) THAT EDUCATION AND FUTURE OPPORTUNITY WERE MOST IMPORTANT AND HERE IN THE U.S. SEEM TO BE THE BEST CHOICE.. WHICH SO FAR WERE PROVEN RIGHT, ALL THREE KIDS ARE GETTING EXCELLENT EDUCATION AND GOING IN THE RIGHT PATH, MY HUSBAND IS HAVING A JOB WITH TECHNICAL BACKGROUND WHICH WAS NOT EASY TO RE-LOCATE, WE TRIED AND TRIED BUT NO LUCK, THAT'S HOW WE HAD THIS KIND OF TRAVEL SCHEDULE FOR MY HUSBAND TO TRAVEL BACK AND FORTH

MEDICATION HE'S TAKING
YOU ARE RIGHT, I SHOULD TAKE THE MATTER ONE STEP AT A TIME, MEDICINE HE TOOK MAY BE THE ROOT OF THE PROBLEM, I SHALL TALK TO HIM

THANKS (THIS WAS MY FIRST TIME PUT MY PROBLEM ON THE TABLE AND FELT SO GOOD THAT SOME ONE CARE AND GAVE ME SOME GOOD CONSTRUCTIVE ADVISE (YOU MAY THINK THEY ARE EASY ANSWERS, BUT MY EYES WERE CLOUDED, I COULD NOT SEE CLEAR, THANKS AGAIN