I am still dealing with a lot of negativity from my WH and am trying to figure out how to best cope with it. My WH has told me he does not want to attend church with me or attend MC with me any longer because he is not 100% sure he wants to committ to this relationship. He feels like he married the wrong person and he is not sure about continuing with MC because of that. The good thing is that we are continuing to communicate much better than we ever have in the past, the bad thing is that a lot of what I am hearing from him is the negativity. How do I convince him that continuing with MC is the right thing to do? At the end of the day if things don't work out, I want to know that we at least put 110% of our efforts into fixing things.

Heartbroken 30, Reading your posting reminds me so much of what my WS said and did. "you'll have to be prepared that this might not work out" "I'm glad your going to C but I don't need it and don't want to put in the time" even you comments about doing all the work while he didn't reciprocate with EN. And even though we already had kids it was still an issue for him in that the kids were part of the problem. When we had a child he felt like he got left out and had an affair both times the first PA the send EA, 10 years apart. He went as far as getting a vasectomy without telling me about it right after D day. As the fog starts to clear things will change. he see's now that the children issue is his problem and how he was raised, he said recently how he wished we could have another child a daughter would be nice lol. But it's still hard WS just agreed to NC and still we have many issues. The issues just change but slowly get better. Don't listen to him now.

km4
me 39
wh 44
married 17 years
2 boys 11 and 4
ow was my best friend