Hello everyone.
I just found out my BF slept with someone else and as if that was not enough he ended up getting the OW pregnant. To my knowledge she has had an abortion, but it still hurts nonetheless. I just found out 2 days ago by checking his voicemail on his cellphone. I always had a feeling, but I never thought it would actually be true.

I've been dealing with this o.k and a part of me has decided to forgive him and try to move past this, but now there is a new twist to the story.

The whole time he has been talking about a woman that he knew who has been trying to help him get a job where she works. Someone called last night to schedule an interview and to show me that he is trying to make things right he told me the OW is the one who works there. I made him break off contact with her but how realistic is that if they work together?? My stomach just dropped b/c now there is a possibility that he will be working at the same place as this woman and I don't know if I can deal with that. I know he needs this job, it pays alot more than he gets now and he hasn't been able to find anything else since Sept. 11. I don't want to tell him he can't take the job, but I don't know if I can live with constant worry that something is going on between him and this woman. I need somone else's perspective PLEASE.

Anyse,

Do you know for sure if he's broken off contact with OW? And if he has, won't working at the same place as OW just undermine that?

My WW had an A with her boss and I would not allow her to go back to a job where OM worked.

Some things to think about- The level of committment that comes from a boyfriend or girlfriend. Even being M a WS still doesn't give their full committment. He is your boyfriend, what kind of future will you have if you get married?