I first posted on Recovery thread, but I think that really we're not in Recovery yet, so I am posting on this instead,
H has made contact with OW. 1 week into recovery and we are back at square 1! I sent her an e-mail after she left him a voice mail after his initial (weak) NC phone call a week ago. After getting my e-mail she called him and said that it was not true (she is a woman of character!)and she sent an e-mail back to me and cc'd him. OF course you can imagine what she said...she said all the same things he said (how deep they are in love, they are soulmates, etc.. Even though she didn't say anything I didn't already know, it was painful. But really the point is he broke the NC rule by answering his cell...she called from a blocked #, but when he heard her voice he should have hung up. And then he broke it again when he read the e-mail, although he knew it was coming and really it was addressed to me (but he shouldn't have opened it all). THEN I come to find out (because I asked) that he called her voice mail and checked her e-mail 2 days ago (mind you, they exchanged codes as soon as they met and I never had his codes until now). He did this frequently during their relationship to see if her ex called. That is contact! He is still obsessed with her! I found out that he used to call her at least 30 times a day...sometimes her, sometimes checking her vm. Now he is out of town for 5 days and I am a wreck. I'm afraid that he will make contact again. How can we move on when he can't even adhere to this simple rule?
