Yes, you seem to be on track - but keep in mind, you are only 27 days into recovery. It will take months and months for your trust to return - which is as it should be. You should not trust until someone proves themselves to be trustworthy.
His inclination to focus on the future is a good one - you can't have a good marriage by trying NOT to have an affair, or by trying to make up for an affair. You need to know what you stand for and what you want, and seek those things in your marraige. Looking back is only useful inasmuchas it helps you do that. Sometimes you need to say "I don't want to do that again" or "we are falling back into this pattern like when we did 'x'." But for the most part, it is more important what direction you are heading than where you have been.
Harley's advice is to mostly ignore the past, once you know what happened. I found that impossible advice to follow, at first. At 2 years into recovery, I still have trouble with that at times, but I understand its value. We cannot fix yesterdays problems. We can only work on today's. If they are the same problems - unresolved issues that led to or were created during the affair, pointing that out is usually not helpful in getting them solved today. Going back and re-hashing those parts of the affair makes solving the current manifestation of the issue harder. I know because I've done those things.
The new intimacy you are experiencing is a huge step in the right direction, but you need a lot more time before you will really be able to trust him again. As Steve and Jennifer say: Trust comes last.
