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I went thru with my divorce today so that I would be able to get support for my kids. I wish there had been another way. Despite the fact that my H continues to write or e-mail the OW and send her Christmas gifts, I still feel there is a chance. I kept asking him whether I should put out the divorce date and he said it was up to me. Unfortunately it wasn't all "up to me" because he was giving me no funds to support the children and I was struggling. I just feel bad though!
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Kate....I'm so very sorry. You did what you felt you needed to do. It still isn't too late to get your H back. People who divorce their spouses sometimes re-marry them. Anyway, prayers & hugs to you....
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hello kate, I am so sorry, but you had to protect and provide for the children. If there was no other way, then you did what you needed to do for the kids. <BR>In my eyes you are a hero. You put the kids first, where they belong. Hold your head up, dfeel good that your kids will have the money to take care of them because you chose action. (((hugs))) cl
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Kate, I'm sorry. Sometimes doing what you have to do is the hardest thing in the world.<P>{{{{{{{{{{{{kate}}}}}}}}}}}}<P>Lori
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{{{{{{{{{{<B>kate</B>}}}}}}}}}},<P>It is so hard to do what's right...<BR>The children must be first...<P>I too see my divorce as just rolling along... I want it to stop... but I HAVE to protect my kids... I can't be the one to stop it...<P>Prayers for you...<BR>Recovery after divorce <B>can</B> happen!<P>Jim<BR>---------------------------------<BR>Where two or more are gathered...
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I am so sorry. Mine will be final in less than a month. I am heartbroken too. Wished I could give you a hug. This will be one of the hardest things I will ever have to do. I still love him so deeply. I am so scared. Will pray for you tonight.<BR>Nancy
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Kate, <BR>So sorry to hear......I do think that he will wake up oneday and realize what he is doing. Protect yourself and your kids...<P>------------------<BR>Susan<P><BR>
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Kate,<P>I am sorry that you have to deal with this he!! during the holiday season. You sound like you are one tough cookie. I know that it is hard right now... but, you should be proud of what you did for your children's sake.
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Thanks, all!~ I really appreciate everyone's support here. And to anyone new, it has been six months since I discovered my H's infidelity and I am passed the weeping, crying, want to die stage. I still want to snoop, but I don't care what I find. (Maybe that will help someone who is just starting the grieving process).
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I'm pretty new here, but I'm sorry too. Take care of your kids. I also have two. They are so young, and all our lives hang in the balance. I am still in the grieving/ recovery process, but sometimes divorce looks so good. Then I read posts from those who are there and think I better work harder at this since he did end the EA.
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Kate, <BR>I have the same feelings as you, still wanting to know if something is going on, but what would I do with the info??? For a while, her H and I were working together to find out info, (the OW was still living at home, H was in Plan A), but after Thanksgiving, H and OW met in Memphis and her H now says he is through with her, just wants it to be over. But my divorce will be final in Feb, and I have such mixed feelings about it. Do I think he will change before then? No. But I do believe that somewhere the bubble will be broken with her and he will suddenly realize what he had, and what he lost. Do I feel any satisifaction abou that? No, just a sad feeling that the family I wanted for my children will never be the same, and I have let them down in some way. <P>------------------<BR>Susan<P><BR>
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Hey, Just because you got the divorce, doesn't mean it's over. It's just a piece of paper. You are still married in your heart. I f you want it to work: As long as he and you are breathing, you have a chance!
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I am so sorry. I know it doesn't give you much comfort, but my thoughts and prayers are with you. You did what you had to do to protect your children. <BR>Viki
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