My WW and I planned a trip to DisneyWorld with the kids for the end of this month. We started planning it about six months ago, and I've been looking forward to it SO much. I really have needed a vacation, but since we were going to have a big blow-out vacation in October, we put it off.

We've been there as a family twice, and once just her and me, and we just love it there, and have a wonderful time. Absolutely our favorite place to vacation.

Anyway, about 1 1/2 months ago, when all of this business started and she kicked me out of the house, she cancelled my part of the ticket (or so she says). However, we had payed for 2/3 of the trip together, and she told me she still owes the other 1/3!! So she cancelled my part and didn't get any discount?

She called me, and asked if I could go to parent conferences with the kids teachers while they are at disney. I couldn't stop myself, I just laid into her. Said I don't think I should have to pay for 1/2 of her vacation, that I can't go on. She said that if she paid me back, she couldn't buy groceries. She wants to simply add it to my part of the divorce settlement.

I told her how miserable I will be while they are at disney. She told me "it's not easy for me eather". I just wanted to say "you came to the wrong place for sympathy".

I just can't stop crying, and thinking about dropping the kids off at the house and telling them "have a great time at disneyworld". I don't know how I'm going to make it through the week. But I have the feeling that this will finally tear down every bit of love I ever had for her.

I just can't believe the cruelty - how can she do this to me, after I have loved her so completely?
I need some help with getting through the week - could someone give me some hints on dealing with it? Just ignore the whole situation? Try to put it out of my mind? Take up Alcohol/drugs?

thanks.

<small>[ October 14, 2003, 07:56 AM: Message edited by: tallboy ]</small>

TallBoy,

I'm sorry that you are going thru such a hard time. I wish I had some anwsers for you. Hang in there .. ( isn't that the same advice you gave me? ) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Seriously though I do feel for you and your family and I hope things get better for you . L&C

tallboy,

That whole disney thing is not going to fly. It was planned as a family vacation....she doesn't want the family together anymore. Why should you pay for a luxury that it appears neither of you can afford....like a vacation? Tell her that you'll pay for a vacation if you're the one going...suggest that she stay home for the conferences and that you'd love to take the kids since you're paying for it and could really use a vacation. You can't make her do something...no demands...but then she can't make demands on you either. Why should you be forced to help her enjoy herself with your children while she tears up your family? Has it occurred to you that since she's not getting any money back....that someone else may be using your ticket? Maybe you need to call the travel agent yourself and find out what's really going on?