As the betrayed wife I need to know. I am told that I ask to many questions and these questions are insinuating?? as he says. Well I would think that if a Normal Regular person or H had an EA and was repentant/sorry he would be more than willing to explain things. He would want to Give as much information to his W in order for her to feel secure that everything is ok. He only gives me as minimual information as necessary. And almost DARES me to ask any more questions or there will be WAR. <P> Kinda like last week he went to work late. Just said I am going in work late. Completely out of the ordinary, with no explaination at all. I said to myself I WILL NOT QUESTION HIM and I didnot. I still now one week later do not know why he went to work late. Is it because he did not have any med. cases til later that day (which is almost never done, or was he doing something with someone??)It could be a small incident with nothing wrong at all but you would think he would want to say WHY he was going in late. I have almost begged him to let me know things so I wouldn't have to ask questions. But that is what I get silent treatment. <P>What about the honesty thing, how do you MAKE someone be honest in a relation when he says he is but there is something wrong. <P>I pray that God will reveal the TRUTH to me soon, because I cannot take this seperate life that we are living. His world / my world just surviving together. Why won't he just tell me and or go? Why won't he Try to work with me? Why this dry hell we are living?

Overcomer,<P>You are not asking too many questions. You do need to know. Just as long as you are doing it in a non-lovebusting way, I think you should continue to ask. How would your husband like it if you just told him what you were doing with no explanation? I am very sorry for your pain. Hang in there!

Hi Overcomer,<BR> My H is doing the same thing. Accuses me of asking"20 questions" and making him mad. The only reason he is mad is because he is lying to me and doesn't want to have to answer. Tries to make me feel guilty for not trusting him and accepting his story. They are just friends he says. I have no advice, I am struggling with this myself. Just wanted to let you know you are not alone, its on of the things they do. Lora