My husband and I have been together for 7yrs, 3of which we have been married. I recently, last Wednesday found out that he has been sending e-mails with another women at work. They have also been spending all free time with each other in class (they are teachers) and he would call her on the phone to talk after I went to bed. He says he just needed someone to talk to and they never touched physically and we have been having marital problems for some months now. However I found the e-mails and they are down right sexual. He asks her when is cheating cheating, and she tells him how she would treat him if he left me. He says I need to get over it and he is not sorry and he did nothing wrong. He says he is sorry he hurt me but will never believe he is wrong. Is he right and I am making this a bigger issue than it is, I feel completely violated and feel all trust in our marriage is gone. He even gets mad at me when I check his e-mails and cell phone calls and says I am pysco. Please help!

<small>[ November 04, 2003, 07:32 PM: Message edited by: sweet1213 ]</small>

sweet -

Of course it's an affair. Either EA or EA/PA but it is an affair. You are not making a bigger deal out of this than you should, you have been violated and you can not trust him.

Get a phone recorder from radio shack. Record his after-hour calls then you will know exactly what/where/when he is up to.

Psycho? When is trying to preserve a marriage psycho.

Read here and you will learn a lot. Keep posting and you will get some great advice.

Welcome to infidelity hell!

Good luck, there are a lot of good people here who will help you through this.

DD

The path to recovery is the same for an Emotinal Affair or a Physical Affair. Click on the link in my signature line to find out more about how to recover. Since you were "togther" for several years before your marriage, you might want to add "Buyers, Renters and Freeloaders" to your reading list.

<small>[ November 04, 2003, 08:24 PM: Message edited by: johnh39 ]</small>