Hi
I really need some advice tonight.
How do I handle this?
I have been in a long term relatonship for 4 years. We were best friends for 9 years prior to that.
He's a runner. This is so hard.
Briefly: We get along great. He gets scared and runs, month later, he's back, relationship escalates, he runs, he's back, relationship escalates.......8 times
We now own a house together and he hasn't run in two years. I think the BIG MARRIAGE step was in the works.
6 weeks ago I found an e-mail from another woman.
Up to that point they had not even talked on the phone yet. She was real mushy in the e-mail, she gave him her phone number.
I screwed up and dialed her number, she lives 200 miles away. anyway I hung up after the first ring.
He called her from his mothers where he decided to go alone that weekend. She whined that I scared her to death. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
He came home and went ballistic. Accused ME of stalking!!!
Anyway he broke up the relationship that day and went to stay with this woman the following weekend.
We still live in the same house and are like complete strangers. We work together, although on different shifts until xmas. So I see him everyday for 45 mins.
He refuses to talk to me about any of this and I'm at a lose as to what to do.
I'm a bit worried about this OW. She seems pretty strange to me.
In six weeks they have been together 9 days. She sends cards and letters to my house almost daily.
"I love you""You are the light of my life""Oh my darling, I miss you so" She calls my house when I'm not here 3, 4 times a day. Then last friday she started calling him at work. She knows darn right well I work there and answer the phone. She calls when she knows he's not available so I will here the message. Are they trying to provoke me?
I am so confused sometimes.
I'm making a lot of progress on me. I've been in counseling for awhile and have made great strides in resolving some childhood issues. I feel like I'm finally grounded and able to move forward and really be me.
I really love this man and he's a real part of my life andd my families. I don't want to lose him.
I'm not real sure an alien hasn't taken over his body!!!
I see what he's doing here. He's running again, the OW is his perfect escape...she's long distance...and really available...she has a built in exit...he works out all day...works all night...sees her on weekends...no time to think..or feel anything, including panic.
The only emotions I get now are anger and none.
I REALLY THINK HE IS SOME ALIEN!!!! HAS THE MAN NO SENSE? HAS HE NEVER HEARD OF STALKER? SHE IS LIKE A FRIEGHT TRAIN AFTER 9 DAYS!!!!
So what do I do? He's here for 4 more days and I still see him at work every day for 45 mins.
He actually had the GALL to say yesterday "Don't worry I won't run too far."
I think I'll brain him!!!
Does the man REALLY think he can just waltz back in without any repercussions?
I need time to solidify me before he comes back, so I can hold onto me. I need to gain strength for the road ahead if and when he comes back. Some major changes need to take place.
So how do I handle this until then? How do I get through the next 4 days? 2 Months..Help!!!
Sorry this is so long.
Love and hugs
Molly
