Well, it sure has been a wild ride!! I am doing much better these days. I just got back from the Mayo Clinic on Thursday. They did surgery on my cheek. My fingers have healed as has all the bruising from the attack. My teeth are just about all done, boy does that hurt!!! The crazy 'other woman' had her first court appearance, and the judge found there was enough eveidence to charge her, so they have set a court date for January. I am pressing every charge I can find against her.

Her husband, at first was going to divorce her, but now he is standing by her and is angry with me!! He says I am being petty and acting like a child!!! EXCUSE ME, his lying cheating low class skank of a wife beat the hell out of me and in my opinion tried to kill me!! I could realy care less what he thinks. I have been through hell I have been in and out of medical clinics either for my teeth or my face. My husband has been absolutely beside himself with guilt and greif. He has been attending some of the Post Traumatic sessions with me. I think I am doing much better. I got a little mixed up and over medicated for a bit, but I am doing fine now. I do not and will not take any anti depression pills, I am doing ok.

My husband told me all about the affair, it was just a sex thing he said, and that the sex was not that good either, they had sex about 5 times. He keeps saying how sorry he is and I believe he truly means it. He said he never loved her, it was just different, he said it meant nothing to him at all. It started when he gave her a ride home from the bar once, she gave him a blow job in his truck, then a couple of times in the back seat of her car and once in his truck. In a way I had to laugh, it was all so cheap! I mean a car for gods sakes, like he could not afford a hotel? HA HA, and based on this, she expected him to leave me, leave his kids, his home and his life? for car sex? God she is tramp! They talked alot about the financial problems her and her husband were having and trouble with the kids etc. My gut told me she was trying to get money from my husband and was using sex as a way 'in'. He was just so stupid to get into this!! What a fool. Because of this, I went through a horror that I would not wish on anyone!!

I am still angry at him, if he loved me this never would of happend. He and I have talked more in the past few weeks about 'us' than we have in a long time. He absolutely does not want a divorce and swears that it meant nothing to him, and it will never happen again. He is willing to do anything to fix 'us'. He has taken alot of time from work to take me to the different Drs and never left my side for the time I was ar Mayo. (Very impressive place, it was actually a hospital called St. Marys, still, WOW)

We are going to see a priest for help on this, he is a pretty cool guy and he is young and very easy to talk to. I feel more comfortable with him than the other 'proffesionals' we have met. He may be a priest, but he is very intune with life and human nature. We both felt the same 'charge' after talking with him and both agreed that he would fit us the best for help. SO, I guess that is about it.

Thank you all so much for being here for me in my horrible 'pile up' as I call it. I am getting back to life again and though I still have a ways to go, I think we will be ok. I will come back from time to time just to visit and for all of you going through the pain of betrayal, I wish you all the strength and fortitude you will need to get through it. And I hope that NONE of you have to go through what I went through.

Please think twice about telling the other persons spouse what you know. In my case, it backfired horribly and the other woman jumped me and beat the holy crap out of me with a pool que. I have endured painfull dental work to repair broken teeth, (still not done) I was bruised and beaten something horrible, I had to have surgery on my face last week to correct my cheekbone, I had broken ribs and bruises everywhere!! So be carefull, KNOW who you are dealing with first.

As for my marragie? I think we will get past this. It will take time, but I think we are worth the fight.

Filly - Good to see you back. Sorry you had to go through all this. Try not to feel like if your H loved you, he wouldn't have cheated. I think sometimes people just do stupid things. It sounds like he is really sorry and cares about the marriage. Ignore OW's H, he's got enough problems of his own. Good luck and hang in there.

Best of luck to you!

Yours was one of the very first stories I read when I found this site a few weeks back. I remember being horrified at how things played out for you. I hope everything continues to get stronger and healthier in your life, physically and emotionally.

And I agree. Don't play the "If he loved me..." game. It'll get you nowhere. What happened probably has nothing to do with your love. More than likely, it happened in spite of your love. Better yet, play the "If he DIDN'T love me..." game. If he didn't love you, what would he have been doing for the past few weeks, what would he be doing today? He hasn't done those things, right? He's NOT doing those things, right?

I'd say he loves you. I'd say that he's an imperfect human being who screwed up, big time. I'd say you two have been given an opportunity to make a better marriage than either of you had ever imagined, so good luck to you. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Filly - Your H must be full of guilt. Hopefully you can work through this together. Take out your anger in court at the OW. Although H contributed to this, she is the one who did this awful thing to you. Your story is one everyone should read to see the terrible consequences of a thoughtless choice.