Check my situation on General Questions "HELP Plan B going amuck" - TMCM asks if I should file a TRO - what ever that is.

Any other suggestions would be appreciated also.

<small>[ November 19, 2003, 08:30 PM: Message edited by: devastated_dad ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by devastated_dad:
<strong> Check my situation on General Questions "HELP Plan B going amuck" - TMCM asks if I should file a TRO - what ever that is.

Any other suggestions would be appreciated also. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">DD got an e-mail from his WW saying that she may be moving home next week and he could either stay or leave. If she carries this out, it will blow his NC and Plan B out of the water.

TRO = Temporary Restraining Order.

I'm leary in recommending that to him and told him to come here to ask you what your expert opinion on it was.

bumping to the top for Cerri to see.

TMCM

Cerri answered me on Gen Questions. Great advice I have a few more questions for her and will catch her on Monday.

Thank you for your help and advice. It is appreciated.

DD

cerri

bumping this as requested to ask couple of Q's

1. Blocked e-mails and told inter to relay to WW also reiterated end affair then I would talk

2. WW moved in with sister 10/6 - me plan b 11/13

3. Think she was bluffin about movin back - I did not reply to this in any way. My Atty said she can move back if she wants I cant do anything without filing for D or Sep. No grounds for TRO

4. Don't understand prepare to leave home w/kids Mine are 14,15,16 and I leave when she comes over but don't take the kids and I don't want to leave house cause she will move in then. Found she talked to D attny and then tells inter she wants kids to stay with her 4 days a week or with her 1 week then me 1 week. Think this is ploy to become primary care giver and get house back.

Thanks in advance for help

Stayin' dark. DD

oops! duplicate post

<small>[ November 24, 2003, 09:18 AM: Message edited by: devastated_dad ]</small>

I think your question is what did I mean by preparing to leave home with kids if she showed up? And my thought was that if she came home out of the blue as she seemed to be threatening to do, then you could take the kids and go stay somewhere else for the weekend or for a couple of days while she decided whether or not she really was coming home.

It's a tough place to be in when a WS decides to move back but not end the affair. Legally there isn't much you can do, and there is no way to Plan B and stay in the same house. If you recall this is the scenario of one of the couples in SAA. She (the WS) decided to move home and the H left the house and the kids. Legally risky, yes. But as I've said, you need to decide which basket your eggs are in and work toward that goal. Is it saving the marriage or making sure all the legal bases are covered? You may not be able to do both well.

Did that answer your question? Let me know if you have others. I got tied up this week with being out on Friday, but I'll check in again.

Hope your holiday is peaceful and that you can be with friends and family who support you and your marriage.

C