I just found out that the bus my husband is on is about 4 hours away. He doesn't know that I have decided to try to save this marriage. On the other hand, I understand that he is very mad that I told his kids, so he may not want to reconcile. I need your prayers. As so against what I had said all along, I want my marriage back. I would always pray to God to help me make my marriage strong when I felt us drifting apart. I hope that this is a part of His plan. I would appreciate any prayers....Thanks

I will be praying for you and your marriage. Start with Plan A, no LBing. Take your time and read all the things on this board. Don't get panicky most WS's do come back to their marriage. You need to make marriage to you a more attractive option, and get a recovery plan. Good luck.

Patti

H will be mad because you have exposed the A to BH and kids. Don't pay much attention to what he says over the next several days. He will likley say hurtful things like " I do 't love you","I've never loved you," etc.

No LB's and remain calm and nice. He probably will not ask that many emotional needs be met but try to met those you are comfortable with. No anger, no disrespect and no judgement. This is hard but you can do this!!

Beau

Well he came back from the trip. Called the next morning to come get some of his papers. I could tell he had been crying. I asked him if he wanted to talk. He said, "What for? Your mind's made up". He also at that time told me he was mad about me telling his kids. I explained to him that had I more time to think, I probably wouldn't do it in detail like I did, but that I was very mad and hurt. He understood. He was in shock that I was willing to work on our marriage. He agreed to all of my requests (counseling, Church counseling, total avoidance of her, writing letter to her, etc). When I asked him if he would have no further contact with her, he said that he hasn't had any contact with her since D-day. Which I know to be the truth. He showed me his secret email address that he had to contact her, and he cancelled it in front of me, as well as let me read anything that was on there. He is very ashamed and remorseful. We start counseling tomorrow. Thank you so much for the prayers....I still need them.