WMWB,

I just got served Friday night,

I am so sorry. How are you feeling? How did the weekend go? How are the boys? Have you told your parents? If so, what do they say?

Cerri's right. Keep in Plan B --- NO CONTACT. LISTEN TO CERRI!

I had a thought about how you could do this better based on what others have said. One, let all your calls go to voicemail. Then you have control over who you call back. Tell your boys your going to do this. Then, two, make up a password with them so that you know its them calling. Little boys especially like making up passwords. That way you don't have to talk to your W at all.

Also, stop LBs. Slights and comments won't win you love units in her bank. Act as if she is still deeply in love with you. How would you treat her differently if this were true?

Remember, others have been known to pull back from the brink and now have the M of their dreams. You could be one of them too. Don't give up hope. You are a wonderful H & father even if she isn't such a wonderful W & mother. (It's hard to believe that she has changed so much in only 3 years.)

How are you planning to spend the holidays?

STTSI - thank you for telling me what you did. WMWB write on each others threads on a regular basis. As WMWB has said my story is almost the same as his .. down to alot of the things our wifes have done and are saying...and how close the Om is.. I just went into a Plan B yesterday. I'm doing it to try and fix myself emotionally now and not really to save my marriage anymore. I need to put space between myself, OM, and WW.. otherwise I think I'll go insane .. ( more insane anyways, if that's possible )

Hi SAB-

Nice to hear from you, sorry I haven't replied in a while. Yup, got the papers a wek ago and still haven't done anything with them. I can't quite figure out why, I guess I'm just trying to decide if I want to contest the D or if I just want to give up and let her go. I feel asa though I'm at a crossroads and have lost my map. I'm sooo tired of all of this and yet I see the looks on my kids faces and wonder how I could ever give up the fight.

There have been several developements in the past week. For starts, both kids and the WW have been sick with fevers (all of them better now) so I took a day off of work to stay with the kids while she was ill on her own. Then she had about $500 worth of car trouble (which there is no way she could afford) and like an idiot... I offered her the use of my truck so she could make it too work. She accepted with minor appreciation. Then finally, she found out that she lost her job. She worked at a nursing home and they had their license pulled by the state and are shutting the doors for good. She was in a bit of a depression for the later part of the week.

It seems as though she has been calling EVERY day since I'd been served and is asking for favors or just wanting to cry on my shoulder about her life. I try to just let her go but I found myself being dragged into letting her cry and trying to be sympathetic to her. Dumb move... I know. I'm back to being dark, letting her deal with her life and trying to put things back together. Hasn't been easy on this end though, with Christmas only a few days away and all. I'm not in what you'd call very much holiday cheer. This is really getting old.

On a slightly different note, the single women seem to be coming out of the woodwork. I have a friend of mine who was trying to fix me up, there is a ex-friend of my WW who seems moderately interested (she asked me out to a concert earlier this week) and it seems that woman at stores and hostesses at restaurants are all particularly flirty these days. Kind of nice on the ego, but I still can't really imagine being with anyone other than my WW. She has been spending tons of time with her OM, she hasn't been home all weekend. She called last night from the next door nieghbors (not OM) at about 9:00 to say goodnight to the kids. Now, her car wasn't over there and she hadn't been home all day... leading me only to assume that she has been at the OM's house ALL WEEKEND. Living this close to him is starting to suck... big time.

Finally, you asked about Christmas. I have the kids all day on the 24th and until 4:00 pm on the 25th. It is her weekend next weekend, so i assume that she will have them from Thursday night until Monday afternoon. We are going to my Mom's on Christmas eve and to my Dad's on Christmas day. Once I drop the kids off... I'm not sure what I'll be doing. It should be a fun holiday.. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />