Well if you've read my previous message I can honestly say now that I was right with my suspitions.My husbands been on the computer chatting with his X-affair(so he says).She lives in Ohio.I'm having a hard time knowing this is happening again.I don't really know it's her for sure,everytime I walk past the computer he minimizes her window.It could be someone new.My daughter was home sick yesturday(she's 16).She mentioned that he got a longdistance phone call yesturday,unfortunatly she knows whats going on she's not blind or "stupid"she told me that he was chatting with her all day yesturday when he was suposed to be looking for a job.So it's starting again.His attitude with me is very distant all of a sudden, not talking with me.I think we said 10 words to each other. yesturday.When I got home from work he was chatting as usual.I don't think there's anything I can do to salvage our marriage.He told me that he's not good for me.I asked him why I wasn't good for him and he couldn't answer me.I'm hearing the same words,I'm seeing the same behavior and I'm being treat the same way as I have every time he gets hooked on someone in his chat room.He runs a chat room where people can trade and download music from each other but it's also a chat room (WINMIX- HARDROCK CAFE).None of his friends in this room know he is married so he flirts with all these women and they IM him.Sometimes I just want to get in there and yell "ROCKCANDY IS A MARRIED MAN WITH 3 BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN".But I can't,he doesn't allow anyone on his computer and he locks it up when he's done.He won't even let our 16 year old on there to do her homework.She's extreamly smart when it comes to computer stuff.I'm at work right now using my office computer.So I don't know what to do.When I got home last night from work,I took a shower and made dinner then stayed in our bedroom until I went to sleep.I don't know if there's anything else I can do to save our marriage or if I even want to try anymore.I've tried everything I can think of.I guess he just wants something else.He told me that there wasn't any adventure with me.After being married 18 years(our anniversary is this Friday 28th)he doesn't even know what my favorite cookie is, he told me he doesn't even know what my favorite color is and he doesn't want to know,it doesn't matter to him to find out.
That's what he told me.I could understand all this if I was a bad person and a bad wife but I've done everything.I'm the provider for our family,I do everything in the house(my children help also).I'm extremely loving and understanding.I can honestly say I've been an awsome wife in every aspect.I can say that because I've disected myself trying to find why he's doing this.I've really looked at how I am with him.We don't even fight or argue.The only time we argue is when he starts doing what he's doing now because he turns on me.Like for instance I was looking at a car magazine 2 nights ago and I walked over to him while he was chatting.He was chatting with her which I didn't know until,he put his head back and closed his eyes annoyed,he yelled at me "WHAT,YOU DO THIS TO ME EVERYTIME(while he hurried to minimize his screen)I didn't even know what he was talking about.Then he yelled "GO" and all I had done was walk up to him and said "hey hon".So I don't know how to handle this anymore.I can't continue to compete with these other women.It's like the past 18+ years we've been together doesn't mean anything to him. I don't know what to do.It's like he wants me then someone else will chat with him and then he doesn't want me then he does then he doesn't.?????
Thank you for listening and for your advise with my previous post... Mand
