I havent written on these boards for quite a few months but nothing has changed at home. First off I will have to tell a little of my story for those of you who are new.
My husband in August broke down crying that he was in love with two women me and another woman. At first I was shocked but he claims that he is not in love with me, felt pressured into marrying me all that stuff. We seen a cousellor and my husband is only seeing his side of the story. Basically we have 3 kids 7,5,20mnths and we have grown apart my Most imp En was quality time which is what I wanted most with him and the kids. He is a workaholic and was always working and spending time helping his dad do this and that. I resented him He neve watched the kids and their sports If youve seen one you have seen them all. We rarely visit or go places and I like to have fun once in a while with my family. I would like to go skiing once in a while have fun on a snowy day and go tobogganing go ice skating. When he does come along he worries about what he could be getting done. His En were lovemaking cuddling etc When he did come home at night I resented him being gone all the time that making love most of the time wasnt something I wanted to do.
Now to put a twist on this story my Husband has been involved with pranic healing for a few years now. He started to go to a local heath food shop where he met some people involved in this and he started to go to meetings. He bought a healing bed and had been working on people over there. The woman he told me he was in love with owns this shop. He cried about past lives how we were on our 3rd life and we are not meant to be together. He has spend every single night at that vitamin shop on his healing bed since sept. He has a key. He works night shift and goes there after to sleep. He comes home whenever in the morning.
I have tried to do a plan A and realize I should be in plan B. Family knows that he told me he was in love with OW they are shocked when they ask him about trying to work it out, what about the kids he tells them he is first in line and that he comes first and that he has made up his mind and he has no feelings for me, His mother cannot beleive it.
I am going back to scool in Jan and worry about the leaving the kids with him. He spends very little time with them, gets angry at them when they fight and uses it as an excuse to leave. the kids rarely see him he rarely plays with them I feel very sad for them. He is very cold with the kids like he has no real emotional attatchment to them. I feel like he is depressed or he has bipolar, Everything is about him right now. The Ow is married and has kids she is 9 yrs older. My h is 35 and I am 34. If he is so happy in his decision to leave why is he so cranky and miserable.my guess is that we are in the way. My dad does not know yet and when my h asked if he knew I told him no that I wasnt going to spoil their christmas eve and tell them he wated and divorce and then he gets defensive and says" there you go again blame it all on me" Well he wants the divorce not me I want to work it out I feel like he is mad that everyone knows about her. He claims nothing sexual has happened but I wonder if it has and that is why he doesnt want to work at the marriage. A couple of months back I took all the kids to soccer in the morning and I came home and woke him up at 1pm and left my two younger children with him. When I got home the bdrm door was locked and he was still in bed at 4pm the younger one was really hungry and crying
I felt like it was abuse he could have at least came and layed down on the couch. I really worry how he will be with them.

If you are in Plan A....have you exposed the affair to OW's husband?