TL, I know what you are feeling, I have feelings for the OW which would also be censored! I want you to know I don't condone what she did, and wasn't welcoming her here, as I use this forum as solace from my pain as well. Just hoping she learns from this, and doesn't hurt anyone else like she has hurt you. Don't forget, your H was a willing party in this, I have to remind myself about that a lot, so maybe some of your anger needs to be directed towards him - I find myself directing anger towards everyone else except the 1 person who has really betrayed me, my H, as I still love him - ridiculous really!! I hope she gets the message and really stays out of your life, because I know your pain. - I don't think I could ever forgive the OW for the pain that has been caused to me - I would just like her/them to know, it might stop them ******* around with someone else's H. <BR>Please don't think I was welcoming her here, because, like you, I'm the betrayed, and know about the pain. If she wanted to apologise, she should have done it in private, if she wanted help from those here, she should have remained anonymous, as so many others have.<P>Thinking of you<P><p>[This message has been edited by sosad (edited August 25, 1999).]