...with regard to the affair? What things are you thankful for?


I'm thankful that my husband told me himself after he broke it off with her and before I figured it out (some things had started to not ring true but I hadn't added them all up yet).

That I found the MB website after he told me that he had problems with our marriage but before he told me about the affair. Dr H's articles convinced him that telling me the truth was imperative.

I didn't walk in on them, in fact I have no idea what she looks like so although I have mental pictures, they arent of a specific person.

I am grateful that his boss let him take so much time off so that he could be away from OW and with me.

Mostly, that he came through the fog, fell back in love with me and is anxious to rebuild our marriage.

Lastly, the support here helped us find a counsellor we both like and seek support of my wonderful doctor.

How about you?

Positive things going for me:

I am strong willed
I will survive this A no matter what
I am the better person in this relationship
I have a healthy family
I have my daughters
I have loving supportive friends and family
I have a beautiful home that I adore
I have a great dog who looked at me with her supportive doggie eyes when I was sad
I have my love of God to support me and strengthen me
I have found MB and all the great people here for support...to name a few.

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My positives are:

1. I have my health
2. I have my children
3. I have my dog
4. I am still breathing
5. Love and support of my family
6. Good friends who support me
7. I am growing stronger
8. I am making new friends
9. I still have hope. . . . .

Hope

Thank you for posting this topic!! In spite of this being the worst year of my life, it is so important to remember that God was with me every step of the way.

I found God's presence in all of these things and I am so thankful to Him for the constant reminder that I am never alone.

Thank you God...

1. For my wonderful, precious, son who was the light in my heart when I thought the whole world had turned to darkness.

2. For surrounding me with the love of the most amazing friends (old and new) and family to help me through the terrible pain of this past year.

3. For showing me how to forgive and how to have faith in love and in heaven again.

4. For my husband, who has returned from the fog and who is truly sorry for what he has done to me and to our family.

5. For my faithful dog, who has run many many many miles with me and whose soft orange fur holds the remnants of my most pain-filled tears.

6. For the priest who talked to me the day I found out about A. Because he told me the truth about what God expected from me in this commitment of marriage.

7. For my marriage, and the deep love that is growing between us now.

8. For my grandparents whose marriage of 55 years is an example of "for better or for worse".

9. For my parents, who held me up when I didn't think I could stand another day of this pain. And for their love for me because it allows them to forgive my husband and love him simply because I do.

10. For my sisters simply because of who they are. The world is better, my life is better because they are apart of it.

There is still much to be thankful for and everytime I start to fall down that bottomless pit I recite, outloud to myself, all that I am thankful for. Here is my abreviated list:

God, for helping me through this showing me I am a stronger person than I ever imagined.

My family; for being there for me; listening, yet not judging, for still loving my h, even though if I said sic him they would (hahah)

My close friends that know what is going on; for their kind words, hugs, phone calls - "just to check, no details", their not judging him and letting us work this out.

My job; thank god for that, it's kept my mind busy

My boss and co-worker - they give me my "safe" world where I can still laugh and feel normal

My dog-...boy he has carried a burden of tears, screaming, silences. This effected him too, his little intestines were in an uproar also.

My new church friends - I visted a few times prior to my h's a now we go TOGETHER (YEGADS!) and go each week. A few know, most don't, but all are kind and loving.

Our counselor; she's great and really makes you think things out. Sometimes she scared me, worried me....but she made me think.

This board - we are all suffering here. I am sorry for that but I am glad to know I am not alone and in those times of desperate need to vent, or to see if my feelings are out of line, I have you to make me think, make me feel, make me cry.

We have to remember the good things. This will help us all survive. I thank God that for almost 40 years I have had a blessed life. I think I will continue to have a blessed life as long as I can keep my chin up, my friends and family and to help others when I have the opportunity.

Great post! Who would believe that on a website dealing with such a tough issue there are positive posts like this!

Here I go:

I am stronger than I ever imagined
I have such a huge personality that I can bluff my way into new friendships
We split up on good terms
I can hold my head up high and say I didn't cheat
I'm young
I'm reassessing my life and finding the silver lining in everything

I am thankful for a good friend who has helped me out by talking with me when I need it.

I am also thankful for doing the right things and avoiding stupid actions that would not help but would make me a guilty party.

Finally, I am glad for my child who has given me his unconditional support.

I have fantastic friends who stood up for me -- not only after my D-Day but before it.
I have two beautiful, funny, smart, sweet kids.
I have amazing parents and two of the best sisters anybody could have.
I have great in-laws who still want me to be part of their lives.
I'm at the start of a new career, full of possibilities.
I love where I live.
I have a woman in my life again, who thinks the world of ME (not of who she wants me to be -- and who, I'm now pretty sure, is NOT just a "rebound").
I'm a lot stronger than I thought I was -- this didn't destroy me, it strengthened me.
I still have my honour, my integrity, my dignity, and my self-respect, and I will never let them go.
I have my head held high, because I was unfailingly loyal, right up to the end.

2003 is over. 2004 is gonna rock.

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- My dear son is living with me, trusting me, sharing his deepest thoughts with me.
- I know and like myself better now.
- We moved to a wonderful apartment in the best area of my city!
- Friends and family are there for me 24/7.
- My boss told me (when I called him crying after I found out about the A - and told him I could not work) that as long as the company exists I will keep my job there!
- my positive outlook on life will carry me through this... even if my WH one day becomes my XH!
- I am MUCH stronger than I thought I was!

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