Question # 1

I have no professional knowledge to back up this poll. However I am asking opinions of posters based your own experience. I have observed from different post that WW seem more readily to leave BH when engaged in an affair than WH is to leave BW in an affair. What do you think? If you do have professional knowledge or statistic or other info, opinion please share.

Question # 2

Of course, everyone's situation is different and individual. So do not take this as a generalization. It is opinion. As individuals we our encouraged to weigh our own situations and any potential for violence as it pertains to our own personal circumstance.

With that said, if you had to say do you feel it is more difficult for male BSs to expose A to OP BW or for female BSs to expose A to OP BH?

I think the reason wayward men are less likely to leave is due to financial reasons among others.

Understand that:

1) Men are more likely to have an affair just for sex rather than love. So they are less likely to leave over an additional sex partner.
2) Whether true or not men do feel divorce favors the woman when it comes to property especially the family residences. They don't want to leave for fear the house becomes her property rather than their property.
3) Women are more likely to have an affair for emotional reasons. Therefore their feelings are more than likely deeper as a WS than their male counterparts.

As to who has the harder time telling I think it would far and way be the male betrayed spouse. There are many reasons for this. First of all, I think men who's wives stray are viewed as being less of a man. While husbands that stray are viewed as boys being boys, thus less of a negative view of the betrayed wife. Secondly men tend to not communicate as well as women. This makes them less equipped to talk to anyone about it much less the OP's spouse. Finally men tend to bottle emotions up more than women. The old real men don't show emotion, so men are more likely to try and be "strong" when facing this type of personal crisis.

<small>[ January 09, 2004, 09:06 AM: Message edited by: stunned-dad-fast recovering ]</small>

Stunned thank you for you reply. You gave me some other issue to think about.

^^