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I told it all
#441904 01/13/04 12:49 PM
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well, I gave my husband the letter that told him of all my indiscretions. He read it. He was speechless for a while. He asked one or 2 questions... and then surprised me by sharing a couple of things that he had done, as well. Not that he was unfaithful or anything - but things that I just never would have expected from him... things he had been shy about sharing with me before all of this. He said that after my disclosure, there was no reason for him to be ashamed of anything anymore!
We actually laughed a couple times together after he read the letter... I couldn't believe it. I admit that I really did expect him to walk out. He has every right to. I wouldn't blame him a bit. So far, he is still here, though. I am amazed. I am blessed. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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#441905 01/14/04 01:20 AM
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SMH,

Congratulations. I must warn you though that you are about to go on a huge rollercoaster ride with your H. He will struggle with what he knows, with doubts about himself, you, the marriage. Sometimes he will be up and sometimes down.

You are right, you are blessed. It seems to occur over and over again here, that the wayward spouse, WS, doesn't understand the depth of the love that the betrayed spouse, BS, has. It is a discovery isn't it? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Value what you have learned and learn to nuture it.

God Bless,

JL
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#441906 01/14/04 01:30 AM
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thank you, JL...
I am trying to be prepared for that emotional coaster ride... as prepared as I can be, anyway.

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#441907 01/13/04 02:31 PM
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Congratulations.

You are so blessed and you are now one of the lucky ones. Your marriage now has a chance to be based on love and honesty. I would suggest that you continue to show your remorse and love for your husband. Please do things for him that shows how much you admire and respect him. It will be very important for him since he will be dealing with a lot of images of you with others. I would also suggest some serious kissing on your part.
You have been given a second chance and I think this shows how much your husband loves you. Don't you agree?
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#441908 01/13/04 04:04 PM
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"I would also suggest some serious kissing on your part."

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> have you been talking to my husband? LOL That sounds like something he would say! Not that I'm arguing - sounds like a good plan to me!
I really do respect and appreciate him... I'm seeing a side of him that I've never seen before.

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Congratulations! And buckle your seat belt.

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