Please correct anything I have wrong. I'm trying to understand the situation

1. You were paid a dowry when this marriage took place. You returned half of it to her familyr? to her? Is there a difference between a dowry marriage and a non dowry marriage with regards to how spouse is treated

2. Do you want a divorce?

3. What happens if you can prove she is being cruel to you?

4. Do you have an obligation to support her family within your cultural beliefs?

5. Do you have proof that you have been being finanically supportive of them?

6. Do you still have the nude picture? It maybe be proof for you she is being a less than respectful wife

7. Have you seen an attorney?

8. Who, how was this marriage arranged?

SwH,i was never paid or took/demanded any dowry from her,its illegal to take dowry now,still some parents give. gurls parents give some gifts and gold to their daughter that is not dowry.yes it is in hindu culture depend on dowry they treat that women.

AS an Catholic,i never wanted DIVORCE,coz in india to get a divorce from church is very difficult. they always try to solve the problem,if both parties are willing to divorce then they cann`t do anything.I tried to bring her back, i went to 5 times to bring her back,even today(After 4years of Seperation) everyday i pray for them to return back.

She lodged complaint that i was treating her bad, and that was false,she can tell lies and court will beleive in her,still i have other proofs that she treated me badly,whatever she done, she done it in public,so i have witnesses.If i prove that she treated me badly then she will get same punishment as she filed case against me,may be little less for being a women.

No i have no obilgations in our marriage/culture to support her family,if she is working also,she can give some money to her parents,but most of the parents will not take,those who r shameless only take from thier daughters,when their sons r not worth to support them. some son-in-laws support FIL/MIL it is upto them.

yes, i was the only person paying all the bills,coz no one is supporting us,and she was not working most of the time.

Yes i still kept that nude pic,in case if that matter comes in court to prove it. it is upto judge to decide what she was.

Yes i already appointed Lawyer,and filed for divorce too,(i pray everyday , not mean that i`ll wait for them,till death) I appealed for conjugal rights for one year and she did`t responded,so court asked me to proceed with divorce.it was not my choice.

My moms sister saw my wife since she was kid playing around their house,and FIL was my aunts classmate,so she thought she is good, but she did`t know what she is doing in college.

If the divorce goes through, will you be able to see your child if she has custody? Is there a reason why she should not have custody?

SwH, in india any criminal can get child custody,if they r women. they have 3 powerfull weapons.
smile/sex/tears.....!

i can get child custody, but i have to prove that i`m better Father than the mother,she has nothing to prove, even no need to come to the court.if she has no job/money also court give child to her coz i`m there to pay her bills,court force men to pay them.

If man get child custody,After the age of 5 boy child natural guradian is Father,court will not tell mother to pay if she is working,so side she has advantages.and child is less than 5 years then there is question of father getting their custody.

Even though you are seperated, 4 years, correct?

If she dates other men, in India, is that considered adultery? How does the courts view that, do you know?

As far as custody, it sounds like, it would be very hard if not impossible to get custody. What about visitation?

Do you mean you have to totally support her, you have to pay for housing, food, clothing, credit cards, auto? Or do you only have to pay for the essentials?

In the area you live, how are divorced women viewed? I recall from an earlier post, in the country, it is viewed differently than in the metropolitan area.

SwH, i have been seperated for last 4 years,
If she date other men anywhere if i have proof/witness/photos i can produce to court to support my case,but i cann`t catch them in act,if i find them kissing or holding hand, indian court will considerd it as adultry.
it is not that difficult to get child custody, coz child is boy and i have proofs that i loved him more than mother, and his life will be better if he is with me.coz she left him with grandparents when he was only 2 year old.if i do not get child custody i can claim visitation.

If she is not working then i have to pay her child support if i prove that she wanted divorce,else i have to pay 1/3 of my earnings.(i can show that i`m bankrupt)

we were in metropolitan city,but i came from small city where everyone knows who am i,they know everything about me and my family,its small town of 50000 population, divorced women has less status,only girl family has to show people they r innocent else it is difficult for a girl,in my case for them difficult to shed crocodile tears and tell false thinngs coz my mother is from her place,everyone knows our family status.