I have been just reading the posts on here for a few months as I had my suspicions that my husband was cheating but nothing concrete and of course he denied it, ANyways- something tols me todya to break into his old email address and I found proof that there has been something going on with this ow- shw is also nmarried and he has known her for several years but I don't know if they have always fooled around or since they are both married they found it convenient to do so, I am just in shock right now as It really hasn't set in - I also found emails to amother woman who is friends with his ex-wife who it looks like he is trying to maintain contact with her although she is in another state ( this is significant because before we married he went to see her to "get closure" so we could move on in our life anyways- he lied to go soo here but explained it that ways and that he would not have contact with her) - another knife to the heart at this point.
I eally don't know what to do a this point- I am afraid I will break down soon had thouh about calling a friend who knows about my suspicions but I don;t think I really wan to believe it yet - even though it is in black and white right in front of my face. I don;t know what to say when he comes home- I don't know if I can pretend to have not seen it and he may figure it out if he goes to the old email anyways- which I don't care if he does maybe I should let him sweat a little wonder if I know. I am afraid when I see him I am going to n ot react too well- I am really boiling with anger more than anything which surprises me as I had in other relationships just fell apart in sadness- I know that will come but I don't think I will let that happen again- noone will have that power over me.
Anyways- sorry I am rambling so much- but does anyone have any advice or ideas of what I should now? What to do when he comes home? Yhank you for any help or support right now as I have yet to talk to anyone about this.
Thanks everyone.
Linda

This is a tough time, to be calm when everything seems to be spinning out of control. I just found out days ago and im still reeling a little. I would definetly ask him about it and make him explain, try to remain calm and i know that will be hard but screaming and yelling doesnt solve anything..... Read all you can on this website before your husband comes home It will help alot as you try and work thru this time in your life

my prayers are with you
cliff