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Hi; I posted on Just Found Out...new and confused...I'm looking for a man's opinion; does a WH with a 20 year marriage really consider leaving his W for for the OW especially when the OW is also M for 19 years and has filed for D to be with him. How can H and OW justify this? Both have children and spouses who do not want the D. My WH and OW only met each other in July and by October were asking for D. Don't know if this makes a lot of sense right now; but I just wanted to find out if there was a male's opinion that I could converse with on this and other WH issues. Thanks.
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It's called fog. Your H and OW are most likley in a midlife crisis. Right now all they see is the stars and bright lights. If they go on with what they want then marry each other the odds are one or both of them will end up cheating within a couple of years. Read the concepts on this site and get surviving an affair.
The grass is always greener till you get over there and find it's become that way by all the BS. The best advice I could give is to take care of yourself and your childern and read all you can to help you through this.
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pvan, I regret to tell you that it is all too common. My WW has left me for the OM. He is divorcing his wife to be with my wife. My WW has told me she wants to divorce me. Both marriages have lasted over 20+ years. Our children are upset. WW seems determined to divorce me so she can be with OM. This sounds a lot like your situation with the genders reversed.
Read the material at this site and especially read Surviving an Affair. Do your best. God Bless you.
<small>[ February 16, 2004, 11:59 PM: Message edited by: JustinExplorer ]</small>
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