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#443712 03/10/04 03:13 PM
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Here's a couple of my favourites from the 80s:

Against All Odds (Take A Look At Me Now)
by Phil Collins

How can I just let you walk away
Just let you leave without a trace
When I stand here taking every breath with you
You're the only one who really knew me at all

How can you just walk away from me
When all I can do is watch you leave
'Cause we shared the laughter and the pain
And even shared the tears
You're the only one who really knew me at all

So take a look at me now
'Cause there's just an empty space
There's nothing left here to remind me
Just the memory of your face

So take a look at me now
When there's just an empty space
And you're comin' back to me is against all odds
And that's what I've got to face

I wish I could just make you turn around
Turn around to see me cry
There's so much I need to say to you
So many reasons why
You're the only one who really knew me at all

So take a look at me now
There's just an empty space
There's nothing left here to remind me
Just the memory of your face

So take a look at me now
'Cause there's just an empty space
But to wait for you is all I can do
And that's what I've got to face

Take a good look at me now
'Cause I'll be standing here
And you comin' back to me
Is against all odds
It's the chance I've gotta take

Take a look at me now


WHAT ABOUT LOVE
by Heart

I've been lonely
I've been waiting for you
I'm pretending and that's all I can do
The love I'm sending
Ain't making it through to your heart

You've been hiding - never letting it show
Always trying to keep it under control
You got it down and you're well
On your way to the top
But there's something that you forgot

What about love
Don't you want someone to care about you
What about love
Don't let it slip away
What about love
I only want to share it with you
You might need it some day

I can't tell you what you're feeling inside
And I can't sell you what you don't want to buy
Something's missing and you got to
Look back on your life
You know something here just ain't right

What about love
Don't you want someone to care about you
What about love
Don't let it slip away
What about love
I only want to share it with you

What about love
Don't you want someone to care about you
What about love
Don't let it slip away
What about love
I only want to share it with you

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I am fairly certain that I am the boards resident Pearl Jam expert.... so I'll toss my $.02.

I don't know if these actually help, but they are "emotion enhancers"

Emotion - Anger
Song - rearviewmirror (RVM)
Uptempo, don't drive angry to this one <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

rearviewmirror

I took a drive today. Time to emancipate.
I guess it was the beatings, made me wise.
But I'm not about to give thanks or apologize.

I couldn't breathe. Holding me down.
Hand on my face. Pushed to the ground.
Enmity gauged. United by fear.
Forced to endure what I could not forgive.

I seem to look away. The wounds in the mirror waved.
It wasn't my surface. Most defiled.

Head at your feet. Fool to your crown.
Fist on my plate. Swallowed it down.
Enmity gauged. United by fear.
Tried to endure what I could not forgive. Yeah.

Saw things... (x4) ...clearer. (x2)
Oh, once you were in my Rearviewmirror.
I gathered speed from you f***ing with me.
Once and for all I'm far away.
Hard to believe. Finally the shades are raised. Hey, yea.
Saw things so much clearer once you, once you... Rearviewmirror.
Saw things so much clearer once you, once you... Rearviewmirror.
Saw things so much clearer once you, once you... Rearviewmirror.
Saw things so much clearer once you... Oh yeah.


Emotion - Despair
Song - Black
Slow. You can hear despair in the guitar riff....Yikes

Black

Hey ooh.
Sheets of empty canvas.
Untouched sheets of clay were laid spread out before me as her body once did.
All five horizons revolved around her soul. As the earth to the sun.
Now the air I tasted and breathed has taken a turn.
Ooh, and all I taught her was everything.
Ooh, I know she gave me all that she wore.

And now my bitter hands shade beneath the clouds of what was everything.
All the pictures have all been washed in black. Tattooed every day.

I take a walk outside. I'm surrounded by some kids at play.
Oh, I can feel their laughter. Oh, so why do I sear?
Ooh, and twisted thoughts that spin around my head.
I'm spinning. Oh, I'm spinning.
How quick the sun can drop away.

And now my bitter hands cradle broken glass of what was everything.
All the pictures have all been washed in black. Tattooed everything.
All the love gone bad turned my world to black.
Tattooed all I see. All that I am. All I'll be. Yeah.

Uh huh... Uh huh... Ooh.
I know someday you'll have a beautiful life.
I know you'll be a star in somebody else's sky but why, why, why can't it be, oh, can't it be mine?


Emotion - ummm, not sure, but it does a good job of describing the feeling when you know something is wrong, but you don't know what.
Song - Nothingman

Nothingman

Once divided. Nothing left to subtract.
Some words when spoken can't be taken back.
Walks on his own with thoughts he can't help thinking.
Future's above, but in the past he's slow and sinking.
Caught a bolt of lightning. Cursed the day he let it go.

Nothingman.
Isn't it something, nothingman.

She once believed in every story he had to tell.
One day she stiffened. Took the other side.
Empty stares from each corner of a shared prison cell.
One just escapes. One's left inside the well.
And he who forgets will be destined to remember.

Nothingman.
Isn't it something, nothingman.

She don't want him (she don't want him).
She won't feed him after he's flown away.
Into the sun.
Burn, burn, burn.
Nothingman.
Isn't it something, nothingman.
Nothingman.
Coulda' been something, nothingman.


Emotion - I'll go with recovery
Song - Thumbing My Way

Thumbing My Way
I have not been home since you left long ago.
I'm thumbing my way back to heaven.
Counting steps. Walking backwards on the road.
I'm counting my way back to heaven.

I can't be free with what's locked inside of me.
If there was a key you took it in your hands.
There's no wrong or right but I'm sure there's good and bad.
The questions linger overhead.

No matter how cold the winter, there's a spring time ahead.
I'm thumbing my way back to heaven.
I'd wish that I could hold you. I'd wish that I had.
Thinking about heaven.

I let go of a rope. Thinking that's what held me back.
And in time I've realized it's now wrapped around my neck.
I can't see what's next from this lonely overpass.
Hang my head and count my steps as another car goes past.

All the rusted signs we ignore throughout our lives.
Choosing the shiny ones instead.
I turned my back. Now there's not turning back.

No matter how cold the winter, there's a spring time ahead.
I smile but who am I kidding.
I'm just walking the miles. Every once in a while I get a ride.
I'm thumbing my way back to heaven. (x3)


These have helped me, I guess.......

Ethan

<small>[ March 10, 2004, 02:49 PM: Message edited by: thefurnitureman ]</small>

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Stevie-Wonder's Lyrics - Lately Lyrics
Lately, I have had the strangest feeling
With no vivid reason here to find
Yet the thought of losing you’s been hanging
’round my mind

Far more frequently you’re wearing perfume
With you say no special place to go
But when I ask will you be coming back soon
You don’t know, never know

Well, I’m a man of many wishes
Hope my premonition misses
But what I really feel my eyes won’t let me hide
¡®cause they always start to cry
¡®cause this time could mean goodbye

Lately I’ve been staring in the mirror
Very slowly picking me apart
Trying to tell myself I have no reason
With your heart

Just the other night while you were sleeping
I vaguely heard you whisper someone’s name
But when I ask you of the thoughts your keeping
You just say nothing’s changed

Well, I’m a man of many wishes
I hope my premonition misses
But what I really feel my eyes won’t let me hide
¡®cause they always start to cry
¡®cause this time could mean goodbye, goodbye

Oh, I’m a man of many wishes
I hope my premonition misses
But what I really feel my eyes won’t let me hide
¡®cause they always start to cry
¡®cause this time could mean goodbye

I Don't Wanna Fight
Tina Turner

There’s a pale moon in the sky
The kind you make your wishes on
Like the light in your eyes
The one I built my dreams upon
It’s not there any longer
Something happened somewhere
And we both know why
But me, I’m getting stronger
We must stop pretending
I can’t live this life

I don’t care who’s wrong or right
I don’t realy wanna fight no more (too much talking babe)
Let’s sleep on it tonight
I don’t really wanna fight no more (this is time for letting go)

I hear a whisper in the air
It simply doesn’t bother me
Can’t you see that I don’t care
Or are you you looking right through me
Seems to me that lately
You look at me the wrong way and I start to cry
Could it be that maybe
This crazy situation is the reason why

I don’t care who’s wrong or right
I don’t reaaly wanna fight no more (too much talking babe)
Let’s sleep on it tonight
I don’t really wanna fight no more (tired of all these games)
But baby don’t you know
That I don’t wanna hurt no more (it’s time, I’m walking babe)
Don’t care now who’s to blame
I don’t really wanna fight no more (this is time for letting go)

Hanging on to the past
It only stands in our way
We had to grow for our love to last
But we just grew apart
No, I don’t wanna hurt no more

But baby don’t you know
No I don’t wanna hurt no more (too much talking babe)
Don’t care now who’s to blame
I don’t really wanna fight no more (tired of all these games)
I don’t care who’s wrong or right
I don’t really wanna fight no more (it’s time, I’m walking babe)
So let’s sleep on it tonight
I don’t really wanna fight no more (this is time for letting go)

#443715 03/11/04 06:55 PM
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The ultimate "song that helps" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

A duet with Sting and May J. Blidge (from his newest album) - and the MUSIC is wonderful!!!

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"Whenever I Say Your Name"

Whenever I say your name, whenever I call to mind your face
Whatever bread's in my mouth, whatever the sweetest wine that I taste
Whenever your memory feeds my soul, whatever got broken becomes whole
Whenever I'm filled with doubts that we will be together

Wherever I lay me down, wherever I put my head to sleep
Whenever I hurt and cry, whenever I got to lie awake and weep
Whenever I kneel to pray, whenever I need to find a way
I'm calling out your name

Whenever those dark clouds hide the moon
Whenever this world has gotten so strange
I know that something's gonna change
Something's gonna change

Whenever I say your name, Whenever I say your name, I'm already praying, I'm already praying
I'm already filled with a joy that I can't explain
Wherever I lay me down, wherever I rest my weary head to sleep
Whenever I hurt and cry, whenever I got to lie awake and weep
Whenever I'm on the floor
Whatever it was that I believed before
Whenever I say your name, whenever I say it loud, I'm already praying

Whenever this world has got me down, whenever I shed a tear
Whenever the TV makes me mad, whenever I'm paralyzed with fear
Whenever those dark clouds fill the sky, whenever I lose the reason why
Whenever I'm filled with doubts that we will be together

Whenever the sun refuse to shine, whenever the skies are pouring rain
Whatever I lost I thought was mine whenever I close my eyes in pain
Whenever I kneel to pray, whenever I need to find a way
I'm calling out your name

Whenever this dark begins to fall
Whenever I'm vulnerable and small
Whenever I feel like I could die
Whenever I'm holding back the tears that I cry

Whenever I say your name, whenever I call to mind your face
I'm already praying
Whatever bread's in my mouth, whatever the sweetest wine that I taste
Wherever I lay me down, wherever I rest my weary head to sleep
Whenever I hurt and cry, whenever I'm forced to lie awake and have to weep
Whenever I'm on the floor
Whatever it was that I believed before
Whenever I say your name, whenever I say it loud, I'm already praying

Whenever I say your name,
No matter how long it takes,
One day we'll be together

Whenever I say your name,
let there be no mistake
that day will last forever

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This song has helped me this past week!

"Sorry seems to be the hardest word"
by Elton John

Sorry seems to be the hardest word

What I got to do to make you love me?
What I got to do to make you care?
What do I do when lightning strikes me?
And I wake to find that you're not there?

What I got to do to make you want me?
What I got to do to be heard?
What do I say when its all over? (babe)
Sorry seems to be the hardest word

It's sad, so sad
It's a sad, sad situation
And it's getting more and more absurd
It's so sad so sad
Why can't we talk it over?
Oh it seems to me
Sorry seems to be the hardest word

What I do to make you want me?
What I got to do to be heard?
What do I say when it's all over?
Sorry seems to be the hardest word

(Elton John)
It's sad, so sad
It's a sad sad situation
And it's gotten more and more absurd
It's sad, so sad
Why can't we talk it over?
Oh it seems to me
Sorry seems to be the hardest word

Yeh.....sorry
Nah.......
Sorry

What do I do to make you love me?
What I got to do to be heard?
What do I do when lightning strikes me?
Yeah.....What do I got to do?
What do I got to do?
When sorry seems to be the hardest word

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Sent this to WS about two months ago...

Don Henley...Heart of the Matter

I got the call today I didn't want to hear but I knew that it would come
And old true friend of ours was talking on the phone said you found someone
And I thought of all the bad luck and struggles we've been through
How I lost me and You lost you
What are these voices outside love's open door makes us throw out our committment and beg for something more

I'm learning to live without you now
But I miss you sometimes
The more I know
The less I understand
All the things I thought I knew about
I'm learning again

Been trying to get down to the heart of the matter but my will gets weak and my thoughts seem to scatter but I think it's about forgiveness, forgiveness
Even if you don't love me anymore

These times are so uncertain
There's a yearning undefined
People filled with rage
We all need a little tenderness
How can love survive in such a graceless age

Ahhh trust and self assurance that leads to happiness
There the very things we kill I guess
Pride and competition cannot fill these empty arms
And the words we put between us doesn't keep me warm

Been trying to get down to the heart of the matter
But everything changes and my friends seem to scatter
But I think it's about forgiveness, forgiveness
Even if , even if, you don't love me anymore

There are people in our lives who've come and gone
They'll let you down
You know they'll hurt your pride
You better put it all behind you babe
Cause life goes on
You carrying that anger it's gonna eat you up inside babe

I've been trying to get down to the heart of the matter
but my will gets weak and my thoughts seem to scatter
but I think it's about forgiveness forgiveness
Even if you don't love me anymore

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Whoever posted Silver Blue & Gold by Bad Company
That somg is Great! One of my favorites. Seagal is a good one too!

But here is Quaterflash; Harden My Heart

Cryin' on the corner, waitin' in the rain
I swear I'll never, ever wait again
You gave me your word..but words for you are lies

Darlin' in my wildest dreams, I never thought I'd go
But it's time to let you know....oh...

Chorus:
I'm gonna harden my heart
I'm gonna swallow my tears
I'm gonna turn...and...leave you here.....

All of my life I've been waitin' in the rain
I've been waiting for a feeling...that never, ever came
It feels so close, but always disappears....

Darlin', in your wildest dreams, you never had a clue...
But it's time you got the news......oooo....

Repeat Chorus

I'm gonna harden my heart
I'm gonna swallow my tears
I'm gonna harden my heart
I'm gonna swallow my tears
Harden my heart...harden my heart...
swallow my tears
I'm gonna harden my heart....

Elton John's Sacrifice

It's a human sign
When things go wrong
When the scent of her lingers
And temptation's strong

Into the boundary
Of each married man
Sweet deceit comes calling
And negativity lands

Cold cold heart
Hard done by you
Some things look better baby
Just passing through

And it's no sacrifice
Just a simple word
It's two hearts living
In two separate worlds
But it's no sacrifice
No sacrifice
It's no sacrifice at all

Mutual misunderstanding
After the fact
Sensitivity builds a prison
In the final act

We lose direction
No stone unturned
No tears to damn you
When jealousy burns

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Everything I Own By Boy George.

You sheltered me from harm.
You kept me warm
You kept me warm
And you gave my life to me
You set me free,
You set me free

Of all the years I ever knew
Those finer ones I spent with you

I would give everything I own,
Give up my life, my heart, my home.
I would give everything I own,
Just to have you back again.

You taught me how to cry
I don't know why, just don't know why
You told those lies to me
You set me free, set me free

Of all the years I ever knew
Those finer ones I spent with you

I would give everything I own,
Give up my life, my heart, my home.
I would give everything I own,
Just to have you back again.
Just to hold you once again.

If there's someone you know,
That wont let you go,
And is taking it all for granted.
You may lose them one day,
Someone takes them away,
And you don't hear a word they say

I would give everything I own,
Give up my life, my heart, my home.
I would give everything I own,
Just to have you back again.

Ali
One paragraph hits home!

#443720 03/19/04 11:24 AM
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This is my Favoite song of all time.

There can be a lot of stories behind this song.
As you U2 fans know, the band is for peace and no more war. But I can read a lot of things in the song other than what might the intentions of the lyrics could be. The beat gets me going. Especially when I think of the A.

U2's Bad (Wide awake in America)

If you twist and turn away
If you tear yourself in two again
If I could, you know I would
If I could, I would
Let it go
Surrender
Dislocate


If I could throw this
Lifeless lifeline to the wind
Leave this heart of clay
See you break, break away
Into the night
Through the rain
Into the half-light
Through the flame


If I could through myself
Set your spirit free
I'd lead your heart away
See you break, break away
Into the light
Through the day


So let it go
And so fade away
To let it go
And so fade away


Wide awake
I'm wide awake
I'm not sleeping
Oh, no, no, no
I'm not sleeping


If they should ask, well maybe they'd
Tell me what I should say
True colors fly in blue and black
Bruised silken sky and burning flag
Colors crash, collide in blood shot eyes


If I could, you know I would
If I could, I would
Let it go...


This desparation
Separation
Condemnation
Revelation
In temptation
Isolation
Desolation
Isolation
Let it go


And so fade away
To let it go
And so fade....fade...
Fade away...


Not fade away, hey, hey
Not fade away
No, no, no, not fade away


Wide awake
I'm wide awake
Wide awake
I'm wide awake
Wide awake
I'm not sleeping
Oh, no, no, no
I'm not sleeping


Come on down
Come on down
Come on down
(Sing it)
Come on down

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You know, some of these songs remind my H. of her!
You know the dumped songs! Because she dumped him!
So it is more painful for me to hear because he might be thinking of how he got dumped and those feelings along with it!
So I can't really pout over a song! This stinks!
Ali

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Ali88:
<strong> You know, some of these songs remind my H. of her!
You know the dumped songs! Because she dumped him!
So it is more painful for me to hear because he might be thinking of how he got dumped and those feelings along with it!
So I can't really pout over a song! This stinks!
Ali </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yeah, no kidding. Someone posted above "Here Without You" by 3 Doors Down and that was the song that my W said reminded her of the OM. She sent him an email that said so anyway.

Anyway a good place to see the videos of some of these songs is http://launch.yahoo.com/default.asp

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Oooo, I cannot listen to that song! It makes me ill.
Ali

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Ali88:
<strong> Oooo, I cannot listen to that song! It makes me ill.
Ali </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yeah, me too. Except I can't seem to get it out of my head.

MIF?

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