My w of 7yrs has lost connection with me with an emotional affair w/ a her friend at work and she won't let him go...or say she doesn't know. says she thinks she feels happy and feels right but can't let me go yet can't feel anything with me. what is going on? and whats up with all this physical reactions??!?!?!?! I can't sleep or eat at all. I keep vommiting and now have heartburn and i cry over and over and over again and again. And the thing is, my W knows all this and knows its horrible but can't feel for me and is confused about it. this is still all new. THANK YOU FOR LISTENING.

Your wife is acting like all of the rest of them. They do not care if you are hurting because they are addicted. That comes before anything else.

But this doesn't usuall last. So start in Plan A. Read all about it here. And get ready for the rollercoaster ride.

Lost, your reaction is very normal. Someone gave me a piece of advice that I'll pass on to you. If you know the identity of the other person why not call him up and ask "what are your intentions with my wife". This will surely rock his world since he may not even know your W is in love with him. That may sound silly but my W is in love with a guy who wouldn't come to her funeral. It may be able to save you a lot of time in getting over this. Will your W scream? Of course, but you can't pay any attention to it. That isn't your wife, is it?

Hi LSiBoston,
Yep, I had some pretty bad physical reactions, too. I eventually let myself get so rundown that a simple cold turned into pneumonia. Think this is fun now, wait till you have a fever and your brains want to explode everytime you cough. YUCK!

I'm really sorry you are having to go through this. Ask your wife why her vows didnt include, 'till death do us part, or until I find happiness with someone else and it feels right'. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

No, dont to that, that's a LB, and you want to eliminate all LB's. Have you read up on plan A? Plan A is designed to seperate the WS from the OP. Do you know what WS and OP mean <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> ?

Getting started and a WELCOME from MB

Read everything on this link, everything you can on the concepts. Try real hard to take care of yourself by making yourself eat, drink water, sleep (I know, it's hard), see friends and family. You must keep strong. This is a battle. Study the strategies here. Post any questions you need. Please take care - Dru