Hi Bog!
You and I are a lot alike when it comes to this!
My H. OW is extremely ugly. She is short, with a Jay Leno face. Not to put him down because on a man that is fine. She worked out but I am not sure what exactly it's doing. Because her body is nothing to look at. The only reason the guys paid any attention to her is because they new she was a walking, talking P*ssy! I think I would have felt worse if she was better looking than me.
I know I am pretty. I have been told I shoud have modeled. I was just approached a few weeks ago to join the Mrs. Illinois pageant. I laughed because I can't see myself ever doing such a thing! I was flatterd though and I needed something like that to happen.
But he made her out to be so much more than she was. He told me things then about her to really hurt me. He doesn't know why he wanted to hurt me the way he did. He told me that is wasn't true with a lot of it. We are still going over that in therapy.
LOL with the 2-5 minute sex thing. Every womens nightmere <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ! (unless he is really bad then you are hoping to get it over with)
Did I mention that my H. didn't use protection either? And not only was she sleeping with my H.,she was sleeping with her H. and another guy. It was very embarrassing and humiliating to have to get check out at a health department spread eagle with complete strangers checking every inch of your bottom. It was almost as if I was doing a shot for penthouse! But finding out that I caught something from that? That was fun that night. I smacked him!
The triggers are very difficult to deal with. Very hard. Something so simple will set them off. You could be at a stop light and see the same car that they drive. You get what I am saying. You will have them and try some way to get through them. It is not easy. I was really really down and avoided my H. the other night because that night was a anniversary date. He left me to go back to work out of state and couldn't wait to call her as soon as he landed on one of his layovers. Went straight to her house as soon as he landed.
I spoked to the OW and she was a mean, evil, sick person. She laughed at me, told me that she could do things for my H. that I couldn't do, etc. No sorry, nothing. I came back with a good come back. According to my H. He couldn't make it to the top! So I through that up in her face. I just got silence from her. The b*tch was silenced! Continued to cuss her out and hung up. So that is where my revenage part wanted to come in. Someone told me that she was in my H. office staring at my wedding picture and from there she went after him. It was almost a game to her. She kept telling my H.; "That we need counseling". "Don't think for one minute your wife is gonna move down here with you". "If she doesn't, she is going to be sorry because someone is gonna grab you faster than she can say bye". So she new what she was doing. And good old H. took the bait! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
Just come on here to vent! If you need me, I'll be here too! How do you feel about counseling? I have learned so much in the last year that I am really amazed that I can figure out what I need in a marriage. That might seem silly. But I think with a lot of marriages, the couple doesn't have expectations or know what they want from a M.
Not saying that is you, you just might need someone that you can talk to. Can't remember, but does your wife want counseling???? That is highly recommened if you are going to stay in your M. If you think you are upset now? Just wait! Hopefully that will not happen to you. But you need to be prepared!
Let me know. OK?
Ali
Still Laughing at the sex thing! That actually made my night! Do you like Bon Jovi? Because there is a song that (can't remember the name) starts off in a heat of passion, he stops and she say's; "You mean that's it?" What a blow! tehehe!
K buh- bye!
