I have been married 12 years. My husband is wonderful except for this freak thing he has for looking at teenage porn on the internet. We have talked about it and he swears he won't do it anymore and yesterday I found out he has been doing it again. We have a 5 year old daughter. I am at my wits end. I don't know what to do. Obviously I can't discuss this with anyone I know. I am so embarrassed and ashamed that he does this. What should I do now? I can't even look at him! HELP

Wow. Well, I guess you need to decide if you're willing to help him or if you just want him to handle it on his own. Your tone and words seem to say that you just want things to just go away. They won't.....just doesn't happen that way.
Speaking from experience, addictions like this aren't something that are gotten over by simply promising not to do it again, or resolving to be better or whatever. There's quite a bit involved, and having someone close to you that is supportive and wants to help is a key. Since you know about it, you need to be able to discuss it together, leaving your shame of him or any ridicule at the door.
If he's willing to work at things, he needs to read and get some tips and advice on how to go about kicking this. One good book is called "Every Man's Battle". It tackles this subject head on.
And you both need someone to talk to about it. Counseling may be in order for you both. You both have to be willing though, and you both need to be able to handle things like adults.

My husband had an affair, but part of what I also found out was that he was viewing masses of teen porn. I too have two little girls and this scared the heck out of me, so I sought out a psychiatrist to ask if my girls were in danger. His response was that the behavior is deviant (especially if he is almost exclusively choosing this type of porn), that he needs some counseling if he can't stop it at my request, but that sadly enough it is pretty common among men and that a lot of men would secretly say they don't see any big deal about it. He said that doesn't mean it's right, just that it's not unusual. He also assured me that the types of porn I should be really frightened about in regards to my kids would be viewing girls generally under the age of 10. Pedophiles in general would be viewing prepubescent children.
That said, it scares the heck out of me still. I feel like I can't go to the mall with him or have a teen babysitter here because I feel like as a mother I'm introducing another woman's child to danger. Even if I rebuild my marriage that aspect will always freak me out. My biggest thing here would be to say that I would insist it stop period--if he knows it's very important to you and that you are disturbed by this but keeps doing it then you have bigger problems in your marriage than porn.

I know you probably expect your H to have more self discipline, but if I were you, I would dissolve the internet connectivity. If he doesn't have access to the internet, he cannot look at the internet porn sites.

Sorta like not having any booze in the house if your H is a recovering alcholic.

Not happy
I often voice an opinion on subjects like this because of my own struggle with porn. I didn't have a problem with the specific stuff you refer to but the nature of the problem is the same.

If you want to help your husband, I believe there are many things you need to know. DO NOT freak out emotionally in front of H with respect to this problem. For me, when W found me with online porn she flipped out and I started to hide it with ever increasing skill. Cry on your own, confide in a friend, etc, but present a strong and supportive face to your husband. Porn thrives on the secret and shame which keep people isolated and overwhelmed with the problem. IMHO, you can't fight it on your own. I found it very liberating to confess my problem to several of my Christian friends. Is it scary, you bet. But I had to release my pride before any healing could happen for me. I had to look them in the eyes and tell them I looked at porn. This began the process to learn why I wanted to look at it. Several people told me it was no big deal but it is and one of the bigger reasons (among many) that W had an A and that we are headed for Dv.

Also, know that your H is likely trapped. While he wants to do "good", will power alone is NOT enough. There is some evidence that brain chemistry is changed by orgasming to porn. Porn site designers are also very skilled at building sites that draw you in and establish a rock solid connection between emotions, visual images, and porn. For more info on this check out: http://www.contentwatch.com/learn_center/article_list.php?cat=pornography

Best wishes

ps. Let him be the one to disconnect from the internet. It will be the best for both of you.

<small>[ March 31, 2004, 12:10 PM: Message edited by: Ridingtherollercoaster ]</small>

I agree w/the post above, don't freak on him. Be supportive but he does need help. I caught my H w/internet porn (although it wasn't *teens*). He decided on his own to go to IC, MC and to not just disconnect from the internet but to get rid of all his computers (he works in IT, computers are his life). But it was HIS decision. I'd say if he wants help w/this IC would be a great start in breaking the addiction. I wish you much peace.