JHF

You did not acknowledge what I posted to you.. Are you aware you can get an std from oral sex? You are pregnant and you could expose your baby to some disease..herpes is fatal to newborns and incurable to you, and so is hpv.. I work in the intensive care neonatal unit and I have seen first hand what herpes can do to a newborn.. Please be aware of what you are doing!! I am only posting to you for your own good.

Please STOP what you are doing.. and get rid of this so called friend.. He is nothing but a threat to you, your marriage, your health and your new baby.

Please read EVERY post and listen to all who care enough to post to you.

Peace,
c_p

<small>[ April 13, 2004, 09:47 AM: Message edited by: craving_peace ]</small>

craving_peace - i did read your posts. to be honest, it didn't even phase me i could get std's that way, little naive i guess. wheels are turning in my head but i'm getting more nervous than brave.

shattereddreams - the reason i'm scared he'd lose his business is because it's a christian organization, based on christian values, etc - i'm sure a lot of the stock holders may sell out and in time he'd be a nobody and i just don't think that'd be fair - i know, sounds dumb, but i couldn't sleep at night knowing he's losing it all.

bog - i didn't have "proof" my husband had an affair but i knew he did prior to him telling me. he was taking this woman out and hanging around her whenever i'd call. i didn't know they were having sex, so he confessed that to me AFTER i told him i knew there was more that went on and if he wasn't going to be honest w/ me he needs to leave. thus, he told me.

the reason i'm scared he'd lose his business is because it's a christian organization, based on christian values, etc
Uh, no it's not. It is simply giving the appearance of a Christian organization.
A good Christian would stop doing wrong, fess up and try to make it right.
A lousy christian would hide the fact that he messed up.

You are getting good honest advice here. LISTEN before it is too late. Your primary concern should be your family and not that so called friend and Church leader. He has no business acting as a church leader or running a "Christian business". He is a wolfe in sheep's clothing. He needs to be exposed. What he has done with you he has probably done with others and that is tragic. Someone has pointed out the possibility that you may get herpes, but there are worse things that you may get from what you are doing and you are exposing your spouse to those things. That behavior is very selfish and irresponsible. Take responsibility for your actions, confess and expose. It is better that your husband hears it from you than he finds out by other means. Act soon!

helpinghand

yes there are numerous other diseases she could get even with oral sex, but I stressed herpes because she is pregnant and could pass it as well as the hiv virus to her newborn.. herpes is more common but she is exposing herself to many awful diseases.. I do hope she is listening..its so important..

c_p

JHF:

Think long and hard about what you posted and the responses you've gotten:

"shattereddreams - the reason i'm scared he'd lose his business is because it's a christian organization, based on christian values, etc - i'm sure a lot of the stock holders may sell out and in time he'd be a nobody and i just don't think that'd be fair - i know, sounds dumb, but i couldn't sleep at night knowing he's losing it all."

This man is living a BIG LIE and you know it. He is in a position of responsibility that caters 2 peoples' spri2al well-being. His behavior MUST be STOPPED. Stone cold. Immediately. He is a player. He is using the business as a smokescreen 2 allow him 2 use people like you for his own selfish pleasure. Fair? The RIGHT thing 2 do would be 2 blow this wide open. You would not be the cause of him losing his career. His selfish behavior is reaping consequences by the droves. Time for him 2 face those, and time for you 2 clear your conscience.

-ol' 2long

Seriously now....what man would want a wife that wants to act like some $lut. Sticking some other man's member in your mouth...you can't honestly think he wouldn't think that was a big deal. That's what really kills me about all the people that have affairs..if you can't keep your commitments or don't want to be married anymore...get a DIVORCE!!! Don't screw someone else over!!! Don't you remember what the pain was like when you found out about your H affair?? Did you deserve that??? NO!!!! Granted he was an [censored] first, but what are you really accomplishing by showing that you that don't have any MORALS either??? If you don't want to be married anymore..you're headed in the right direction. Do both of you a favor and get a divorce or pull your head from your [censored] and confess so that you can start healing together.
INTEGRITY is doing the right thing when noone else can see you. Try it!!!!

"He confessed he doesn't like his marriage" Uh huh! What was he supposed to say? "I love my wife and will never leave her, but I wouldn't be opposed to a blow job if you wouldn't mind obliging"

Pretty much what OM said to me unfortunately.

Jenny