Well things had been going to well for WW and I. Great easter weekend, she was opening up and all was well in the world. Then I get a call Monday and my W tells me that OM called her 14 times that day at her office and followed her to a gas station and a bank. The guy is obsessed and has been stalking her to the point we got a protective order. BUT when my WW moved out, for two days, she allowed him to "come over" and so now the cops won't take the PO seriously and the guy has been harrassing us non-stop. Real charmer this guy. When I get thourgh with my office job on Monday I go to my ranch that I inherited from my father and my fence had been cut and my cattle stampeded. I spent several hours trying to round them up before it got to dark. So by the time I get home I'm tired and mad but she is in a much worse mood and she had been drinking. Funny but she never drank before the A but anyway she accidently whacks my 11 year old son in the eye with her elbow to the point it swells up so I tell her to just go to bed which she does but not before a few mean comments were made non both sides. I take Tuesday off from my town job to round up the rest of my cows but before I can leave for the ranch our phone rings and it is one of my wife's friends calling to tell her that there is a "sex toy" hanging from the door of her business that is on main street of the little town we live by. We call the cops, they say they can't prove it was him. We see we aren't getting anywhere with them get that taken care of and about that time a guy and a lady pull up ask for us and say the are from Social Services and it has been report, we find out later by OM, that our kids are being subjected to domestic violence and they need to talk to us. Having said what I did about my wife I should clarify that she is a wonderful mother. In pretty short order it becomes obviouse to SS that we are good parents they leave but now my wife is just freaking out. I leave, last night we had a big fight and I feel like we have taken a huge step back.
Man this hard! I spent Tues. afternoon with our attorney and he in turn with the the county attorney and today they will file charges against this guy for stocking and violating the PO with a theft charge thrown in for good measure. I think if this guy were actually totally out of the picture we could get back on track but everytime he does something it just sets us back no matter how hard we try for it not to.
Guess I just needed to vent.

Would not want to be you man. I dont have any advice for you , I just wanted to say I feel for ya. If it was me I might be to the point of hurting somebody if you know what I mean. It would probably not solve anything, and I'm not suggesting it. I'm just saying I want to beat this guy up and I dont even knkow him.

medic, thanks for responding... trust me that is one thing that has made this so hard, I know what needs to be done, kicking the ever loving you what out of him, but if I go to jail then where will my wife and kids be? I fight that internal fight everyday. I did go to his house the day he left nasty messages on my work phone, when I got there he opened up the door and said come on in this a loaded 9mm I have aimed at you and I'll just say you were breaking in. Ya know in a funny way that's when I realized how much I loved my family. We sometimes say we would die for them but at that moment I realized I gladly would. I felt as though I was protecting them and even with a psycho holding a gun on me not an ounce of fear entered my mind.
Thanks for the support... I need it!

Maybe you guys need to just move away. That would really suck, and I hope your W realizes what she has done. Do you live in a CCW state? I dont know how you feel about that, but the guy has already pointed his weapon at you, might not be a bad idea to be ready. I know this sounds a little militant, but it goes back to the whole dying for your family thing, protecting. If I was in your shoes I think I would try to prepare myself for anything. Not look for it just be ready. This guy obviously is going to need something drastic to happen before he will leave you alone. He shows up at your work places, when do think he'll start coming by the house?

Ya know moving has crossed our minds more than once. My wife is not from here and I lived elsewhere for 15 years so it was far from out of the question, but the land that I inherited has been in my family for well over 100 years. My ancestors lived in a hole in the ground when they first homesteaded the place and had to fight off indians to stay. Part of the home I live in was built in 1880 by them from wood that was cut on our land so I'm not letting some little piece of crap with a screw loose chase me off. My kids are the 5th generation to walk that land and I hope there are 5 more.
On your other point, in case you can't tell there is more than a little cowboy in me so I'm way ahead of you. No need to conceal weapons here there are still a lot of the old time ranchers that drive around with a rifle in the gun rack of their truck. Seeing someone with a gun is common. Not the route I want to take but I WILL protect myself and my family. Trust me I am not some gun toting radical but you can't imagine what this does to you until you live it.
Up to this point I have been willing to let the law take care of things. I told them today was as long as I was waiting.

Hey I hear ya.My kids are the 5th gen on our place too. I am in the same boat as far as the guns go. Living in the sticks is great. I just asked because you never know where peoplee on here are from or what their veiws are. Not suggesting anything rash, just curious as to how prepared you were. Sounds like you're set.