I'm sorry you have to be here, but I believe you can get some help in this forum.
1. Read, read, read. Read the basic concepts section off the front page of the site. It will help you understand some things you will need to know to start working on your Marriage.
2. Don't Love Bust. Usually we get angry when people do such bad things to us. It is much easier to have her like you, and reconcile with you if you are nice to her. 3. After you get a basic knowledge, get the books Surving An Affair, and His needs, Her Needs and read them.
4. Ask specific questions after you have some background. We can't tell you if your marriage will survive, but we can help with some parts of your attempt to make it work. Remember that sometimes are slow, don't be alamred if you don't get quick responses to questions.
5. If there is any way at all, call the Harleys for phone counseling. They are good at what they do. If you don't believe you can do that, continue with local counseling with her as long as she will go. It will help get to the bottom of why this happened and help to recover from it.
This will take some time. It didnt happen in a day and it won't be fixed in a day. Prepare yourself for the long haul. Be the better person, don't get angry back, don't try to get even. Learn what will give you the best chance to fix things, and do that.
Here is a link to some of the basic conceps on saving your marriage. After you read them, come back and talk some more.
Dr Harleys surviving infidelity
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