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<small>[ September 15, 2004, 09:25 AM: Message edited by: Tenn25 ]</small>

If you are asking these questions then I suspect that your gut is trying to tell you something. Had I listened to my instincts in the first place I may have been able to stop my WH from having an affair that would last 2 years. If he is hiding bills and there appears to be unaccounted for time, then he is hiding something from you. Try not to panic and be watchful but not confrontational unless you have strong proof of something. I confronted too quickly when I should have been continuing to watch and now I don't know if the affair is ended are not.

Don't get me wrong, your husband may NOT be having an affair, but keep an open mind about what is going on here. If there is nothing to hide then he should be showing everything to you - your married and married people share new experiences. Just try to stay calm and watch for other signs that something may be off.

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<small>[ September 15, 2004, 09:24 AM: Message edited by: Tenn25 ]</small>

Elane,

I completely understand how you feel. My husband used to get deployed to all sorts of exotic countries (Korea, Yugoslavia etc.) and I used to worry so much about him over there hooking up with a prostitute or a girl who is desperate for an American husband etc., but you need to take a deep breath now and try to relax. I think you will be just fine and you may have just worked yourself up a bit because you heard stories about those wild and crazy women over there etc. and naturally you are 'finding' stuff that makes you suspicious. I've been there... ;-) From what you have posted here, I think that your husband loves you very much and if you really think about it then you would probably know that if he really wanted to have an affair, he wouldn't wait to go to China for that. There are plenty of beautiful women right here in the United States.

So, don't worry and get yourself all pretty, cook a nice meal for your hubby's return and show him what a beautiful loving wife he's got.

Take care!

Kati

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<small>[ September 15, 2004, 09:21 AM: Message edited by: Tenn25 ]</small>