I don't often post here...usually, it's only when I feel I can actually offer useful info or help. I try to choose my words carefully for maximum impact. Sometimes I'm successful, sometimes I'm not. So, to all of those who "just found out", here are my words of encouragement.

It has almost been 3 years since my d-day. Time and hard work have been moving me through the healing process. I am recovered. When I say recovered I mean that I have gotten to a place where I know I can survive. Will my M last forever? I don't know, but I hope so! Either way, I'll be ok. I have my eyes on the future and the lessons I've learned in my back pocket! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

This whole experience has taught me that I must have boundaries in my life. I've also learned that I can survive whether I'm married or not. I believe in myself, I believe in my abilities, I believe in my strength. I love my H dearly and I love sharing my life with him. I also know I can go on without him and I'll be ok. Did I always feel that way? Nope, I didn't. A "trial by fire" (or an A) has a way of pushing us to be better and stronger.

Can I promise you that your M will survive. Nope, I can't. I can promise this...with time, hardwork, support and God's help you can and will survive and be stronger.

mgm,

Thanks for the great update and the message of hope for those still struggling.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />