My W and I have been separated the last 3 months because of my problems with depression. She filed for divorce last week because she said she just needs to have a goal and move toward it whether it be reconcilliation or divorce, she just couldn't stand being in limbo. Anyway, since we separated she has been talking with the D neighbor guy, A LOT. The other night I tried to call her at home and she wasn't there (she earlier stated that she didn't feel well and would just be reading at home). So I went to the house, she wasn't there. I pretty much new that she was at the neighbors. I thought, okay maybe she's just watching SNL and then she'll be home. Nope.
At about 1:30am I decided to just walk around the neighbors house (it was storming too). I heard, what I thought was people having sex. Granted this was through the walls of the outside of the house but it sounded like what it sounds like when the bed is banging. Know what I mean? This along with music playing. I don't know if my mind was playing tricks on me or what but I was so distraught.
I immediately called over there and got the answering machine. I said I can't believe you guys are doing this (pretty calmly I might add) and I want into my house (I was locked out). I called a couple more times asking if they wanted me to call the police to let me in or what. Lo and behold the police show up a few minutes later. They go next door, get the keys from her, I get in ...
Skip ahead to the next day. She calls me on my cell phone, all disgusted "You think you know everything don't you", "This is why I filed, I feel like I'm being stalked", ...
I ask to come over and talk, and I do. I mention nothing of what I heard. She says she was just over watching a movie, then she was staying there on the couch because she didn't like being alone in our house during the storm (she is very afraid of storms). She said the one thing she would never do is hurt me like that. She has been hurt before (not by me) and knows the feeling of being betrayed. My wife has never been dishonest with me and has never given me any reason to doubt her honesty. She is the best Christian I know (I know, I know, even Christians have affairs) and is really struggling with whether or not a divorce is the right thing to do. We have been getting along great, she was even thinking that maybe we could work this out.
To make a long story long... I never did mention what I heard. Can I be sure of what it was? No. The police did tell me she had a bed all set up on the couch. My delema is, do I mention what I heard (what sounded like people banging on a bed)????? We seem to have gotten past the part of her staying over there. I love my wife dearly and regardless of whether she is/was having an affair, I want to work things out. I truely believe her when she tells me she is in no condition to have a relationship, I put her through hell. So, that is the question, Do I mention what I thought I heard or do we move on since we seem to have moved beyond that night????
