and confidence. 2 weeks since finding out of the affair. This weekend I had a moment of clarity. I love myself, I enjoy being with myself, I don't rely on another human being for happiness, she broke the contract not me, i don't think that I even want someone in my life who is capable of treating me this way. There are thousands of women out there who would fully appreciate me and want to be with me over all others. Let's face it, the people who we are married to are not the people that we thought they were. Without extreme remorse they don't even deserve our marriage or even friendship and they have proven that by their actions. We all need to start thinking of ourselves more not them. They made the choice and there are consequences for that. They may not happen now but they will. if you haven't been abusive to your spouses and just loved them with all of your hearts you do not deserve to be treated like this. Let's all move forward in life regardless of their coming home or whatever. Turn the tragedy into personal power and strength instead of depression. Tramatic events can be transferred positively or negatively. Let's take the WS power away from them and into us. Granted I know this is different with children involved.

Hello,

I just want to say I think that was a great post.

Unfortunatly I have 5 children and I love them all. WW says the only reason she is with me is because of the children. I am seriously thinking of the hell with it and take the chilren and we can go on our own. She broke the contract with us not the other way. I will not divorce and I am trying to not LB but my work has suffered greatly. She has even stated asking for more and more money and if I refuse she starts argueing with me and tells me I can't get over it like its all my fault (Blackmail). GO FIGURE

Shad (Just a Bait Fish)

Juke123

Just came across your post as I was sitting here browsing. I will use it as a source of strength in the coming weeks!! Thanks