I posted a few days ago that my H had confessed to having an internet affair. We have been married 18yrs and when we were married 9 he had a real deal affair It was devastating We did counseling and things got really good. I totally trusted him again and he swore he would never do anything to hurt me....and then I found out he had met some other married woman on line and she was the best friend he ever had and she was mailing him nude photos of herself. I found out he sent her note saying it was over and shut down his email acct.The last 3 weeks after we discussed no contact with her was allowed I was working on meeting his en and we were very happy Then yesterday I found out that after one week he had started contact back up with her because he couldnt let her go. Well...that has shaken my world a bit. I told him total honesty was the only way we were going to handle this and told him he needed to tell our sons who are teens what was going on I emailed the OW and told her I knew and that I was going to call her H and tell him if she didnt Just got an email from my H that he sent to her and told her he was ending all contact with her immediately and she should do the same...I am so torn to what to do...I just dont know if he can let her go...I cant keep walking down this road and I am not going to do it....I am sick with confusion today and sick of this man who I call my husband. How can he keep hurting me like this?? Eliza

Sorry, that is what they all do. They are like addicts, and have a very difficult time letting goof their fix. Start in Plan A, you can read all about it here under the thread "General Welcome to All New Builders.

Stick with us, we have been through it and can help you get through it too. Your days will be better again.